Wedding in Thailand: how it is held, places and tips for organizing +Video

Tourists from Russia love to relax in Thailand. Travel agencies provide their statistics on the popularity of countries; last year (2018) more than one and a half million Russians visited the kingdom. This kingdom is famous for its magnificent beaches with white sand and clear blue water. Here you can find a lot of entertainment and delicious food. A wedding on the seashore, and even more so on the paradise islands of Thailand, is a dream for many.
Girls strive for the beauty of the ceremony, and what could be better than a wedding in such a heavenly place. A wedding in Thailand will be the most memorable among others.

It is important to understand that the order of marriage remains unchanged.

The administration will provide a representative who will read everything strictly according to the text. Diluting this speech is not allowed, so if you want to say your customized vows, it's best to resort to an informal ceremony. To do this, it is enough to sign officially in Russia, and in Thailand arrange an unofficial part of the ceremony, in which case it will be possible to deviate from the rules and make it your own. In addition, even the groom cannot be dressed in black in the official ceremony; no classic “our” suits are provided here.

An unusual form of wedding is a wedding according to local traditions in a Buddhist temple. Local temples welcome any visitors, so even people who are not native to the Thai religion can get married here. They party here in full force and everyone will definitely remember this holiday for the rest of their lives.

A wedding in a temple begins early in the morning. The groom is escorted to the temple by guests and soloists of the local orchestra. Everyone is dressed in local traditional costumes, singing and playing local instruments. This is how the locals announce that the groom has arrived for the ceremony. The hall is decorated with bright flowers. According to tradition, the monks dress the lovers with flower garlands. Flowers are given to all relatives and friends of the bride and groom. The bride and groom receive a small certificate with the seal of the temple. Unlike a traditional wedding in Russia, rings are not needed here. The monks use red threads to bind lovers together, which bind the hands and heads of the couple.

According to local traditions, this ritual is performed to unite the lives of two people into one. The bride and groom exchange flower wreaths and drink a love potion. The ceremony also includes other rituals. For example, it is imperative to plant a tree of fidelity and release small birds from your hands. In our country they traditionally sprinkle flower petals, and in Thailand they pour water from large sea shells over the hands of those getting married.

Thai wedding

There are many different aspects to a traditional Thai wedding, but not all traditions are preserved to this day. A modern Thai wedding may contain several basic ceremony options, some of which are quite complex, and some of which are too simple. In general, how the wedding will take place depends on the wishes of the newlyweds and their families. Different parts of Thailand have different traditions, so, for example, Thai weddings in the south of Thailand (for example, in Phuket) are not at all similar to the ceremonies in the northern part of the country (for example, Chiang Mai). For marriages in some provinces and Thai villages, many old customs such as "preparing the wedding bed" or "bride price" have been more likely to survive, and are still included as "obligatory" steps. Even despite the presence of monks at the celebration, in fact, the Thai wedding ceremony is non-religious. No religious rituals, but a large amount of symbolism, which should provide the newlyweds with good luck and family happiness.

Selecting a date To ensure a happy marriage, newlyweds must get married on an auspicious day and time. The Thais do not see anything frivolous in this, and astrologers conduct consultations and evaluate the compatibility of the stars. Wedding invitations In the morning of the wedding day, the monks bless the bride and groom for a happy marriage, with only relatives and closest friends of the newlyweds present. Wedding invitations indicate the exact time so that none of the invitees miss the beginning of the most important ceremony. The date of a Buddhist wedding is set taking into account the beginning of a favorable period, for example 09.09 (9 is a lucky number in Thailand). In general, Thai people are not famous for their punctuality, but they pay special attention to weddings. As for the holiday evening and wedding banquet, a verbal invitation is sufficient.

Betrothal Rite Traditionally, the betrothal ceremony takes place before the wedding, but for practicality and budget savings, some couples get engaged on the wedding day (see below - Khan Maaka procession). Paying tribute to the bride's ancestors This Buddhist ceremony usually takes place the night before the wedding. This is a fairly simple tradition and the couple wears casual clothing, the principle being that the couple honors the bride's ancestors. Making donations Sacrifice is one of the main elements in the Buddhist religion and is especially important on special occasions such as weddings. The presence of monks at the ceremony must be earned by making a material or animal donation, for example, young people can give freedom to an animal - release a bird from a cage, or release a fish or turtle back into the water. Among Thai Buddhists, it is widely believed that donating a gift (cash) to a local temple (Wat) will ensure that the couple lives together with love and marital happiness. If the groom makes a generous donation to the local wat in the name of the bride's parents, then he is showing great respect to both his future wife and her family. Buddhist Blessing You do not have to become a Buddhist to take part in the ceremony and, in fact, many European couples getting married in Thailand also choose a Buddhist wedding ceremony. It is important to note that, although monks may be present for some time at a wedding, this ceremony is not, in fact, a religious rite and, as a rule, it does not take place in a temple, but in a private house belonging to the bride or groom . Monks invited to the ceremony bless the couple and give the newlyweds the opportunity to make a donation. Performing a Buddhist ritual does not in itself provide legal marital status. In order for a marriage to become official, it must be registered with the registry office. The wedding day usually begins early in the morning (around 6-7 am), with the arrival of the monks. While the candle, placed in a container of water, is burning, the monks chant and read prayers. Later this water will be used to bless the newlyweds. Prayers are also read over a bowl of white paste, which will be used to anoint the foreheads of the bride and groom. Before leaving the room, the newlyweds and their relatives offer the monks food. And until the clergy finish their meal, no one else is allowed to eat. After eating, the monks begin to chant again, and the senior monk, sprinkling with holy water, blesses the spouses and everyone present. Then the monks return to the temple. In some cases, to perform the ceremony, a couple can go to the temple themselves, rather than inviting monks to their place, but this still does not exempt them from donating. Usually, an odd number of monks are present during the ceremony - 3, 5, 7 or 9 people, each of whom is given an envelope with a donation. No matter how the wedding day is planned, the blessing is usually followed by the Khan Maak procession. Khan Maak Procession Traditionally in Thai culture, the groom's family discusses with the bride's family what the dowry ('sinsod') should be. Once an agreement is reached, the groom's family presents gold and other gifts to the bride and her family. The groom and his family arrange a wedding procession - Khan Maaka. In the old days, the procession began from the groom's house and entered the bride's house, but in modern life, everything has changed somewhat. Nowadays, the Khan Maak procession often takes place on the wedding day itself, and starts from the bride's house. The only thing that remains unchanged is that the procession is very fun: musicians play traditional long drums, and guests sing and dance. By the way, sometimes, the groom's family, with trays of generous gifts, having reached the bride's house, is faced with symbolically closed doors or gates.

Opening of the doors The next stage of the wedding ceremony - "sanuk", takes place with a lot of funny jokes, mainly directed at the groom. When the khan maak procession arrives, the bride is inside the house. To make sure that the bride's chosen one is a worthy groom and is able to financially take care of his future wife, he must cope with the opening of symbolic doors or gates. The number of doors and gates varies depending on the region, but traditionally, the groom faces a "gold and silver gate", in the form of a gold or silver belt or ribbon, held by two female members of the bride's family. To open the gate, the groom must bring in the 'key', in the form of an envelope with money. The groom standing at the gate may be given a harsh rebuff; in a joking manner, the bride's relatives hint at the insufficient investment to gain access. Meanwhile, with the passage of each gate, the requested amount becomes larger, and at the same time, after each successful opening, loud applause is heard from those gathered. After the groom has overcome all the obstacles, his family presents gifts to the bride's family, which traditionally consist of bananas (as a symbol of fertility), sweet treats and flowers. In years past, plants given on the wedding day were planted in the bride's house, and when the couple's first child was born, it was believed that these plants would provide him with good health. In addition, some of the plants of the Khan Maak procession are food intended for deceased ancestors. This indicates that the deceased relatives were not forgotten, and are part of such a joyful event. Expensive gifts that the groom gave to the bride and her family (gold chains, necklaces, etc.) and dowry ('sinsod') are inspected by all those gathered. Sai Monkhon This part of the wedding ceremony is usually conducted by a senior presbyter (one of the bride's family members or a respected person in society). During the wedding ceremony, the newlyweds dress in traditional Thai clothing and kneel before the elder. The heads of the bride and groom are tied together with previously prepared white threads “Sai monkhon”, Para “wai”. Symbolically, two circles are formed from threads, intertwined, but at the same time continuing to remain independent. This indicates that the pair of destinies are linked, but separate personalities still remain. Then the elder washes the hands of the young people with holy water. Bowls with bouquets are located under the arms so that the illuminated water does not fall on the floor, but flows down onto the flowers. Afterwards, the guests will bless the newlyweds and also wash their hands with holy water.

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The bride and groom wear garlands of lush flowers around their necks and kneel before the elder, who speaks a few words and anoints their foreheads. The invitees approach a vessel (Sang) filled with holy water and also wash the hands of the newlyweds with it. Each guest places a gift in a basket located near the bride and groom, most often an envelope with money. The amount allocated as a gift depends on the social status of the guest. Sometimes the heroes of the occasion, on the wedding day, also give their guests small gifts in the form of some kind of souvenir.

White Threads Ceremony The newlyweds sit next to each other while the elder gives a parting speech and blesses them for a happy marriage. He ties the wrists of the young people with white threads and pours holy water on them. Afterwards, the thread is broken, and it is believed that the one who has the longest part of the spouse has deeper and stronger feelings for his chosen one.

Sai Sin Numerous relatives and friends tie the wrists of the newlyweds with white threads and wish the couple a happy married life. In order to benefit as much as possible from the spoken wishes, the newlyweds will keep these thread bracelets for another 3 days.

Wedding dinner The festive banquet most often begins around 6 pm. The bride and groom greet the guests arriving for the celebration. Invitees can write down their wishes for the newlyweds in a special journal, give gifts and take photos with the couple. At approximately 7 o'clock, guests are seated at the tables and begin dinner. A good friend of the bride or groom can be appointed as the wedding master of ceremonies (MC), sometimes an experienced person is hired for this event. In Thai weddings there is almost always a special guest of honor who will be given a short speech with best wishes to the couple. After the speech, there is an obligatory and sweet toast to the newlyweds. The MC gets back to business and can tell a few jokes or humorous stories from the life of the bride and groom. The bride and groom cut the wedding cake and, showing their respect, first treat it to their parents, older relatives and the guest of honor. At Thai weddings, the groom's friends are often eager to propose a toast to him, and each of them, already married, must reciprocate. Officially, the celebration ends around 11 pm, but only officially, in reality, most of the guests go to continue the celebration at some nearby karaoke bar. For the newlyweds at this stage, after such a long day and such an early start, the celebration will be over, although before they go to bed, another surprise may await them... Preparing the marriage bed This ancient ritual still takes place, and is especially common in rural areas. Don't be alarmed if you are asked to help find an older couple who will have to sit on the newlyweds' bed and wait for them on their wedding night to greet them. The idea is that spouses who have lived together for many years indicate a long and successful marriage. They pass on their knowledge and experience of a happy family life to the newlyweds. An “experienced” husband and wife can say how lucky the newlyweds are to have such a soft and comfortable bed, thereby hinting that the spouses are about to have children. Bags of rice and coins, acting as symbols of prosperity and fertility, are also sometimes placed on the bed. Tradition states that newlyweds must share their bed with these items for the next 3 nights. Don’t worry, old people won’t have to stay in the bed of young people for 3 nights!

Traditional Thai wedding

Dowry – Synod

Traditionally, everything related to the Sinsod dowry falls on the shoulders of the groom and his family. If your bride is Thai, then you will still have to come to terms with this nuance, since, in most cases, this issue becomes a bone of contention between a non-Thai man and the family of his chosen one.

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You can hold a symbolic wedding not only in a temple

The bride and groom themselves or with the help of an agency can organize everything as they want, with the exception of official documents. But even this point can be corrected if you prepare in advance the documents that will be needed only for the appearance of the guests, and officially register the marriage in advance in your homeland. A symbolic wedding can be held any way and anywhere.

Even a specially hired artist or any other person can carry out symbolic registration according to the scenario that the newlyweds want. It is not prohibited to bring even your own registrar to Thailand. Guests do not need to know that the ceremony is unofficial. You can do everything naturally and look like an official marriage.

In a symbolic ceremony, you can choose the place that suits you. Often hotels or places right on the coast are chosen. Local organizers already know the most suitable beautiful places for ceremonies. Some even offer very exotic options, such as a waterfall or a cave. During the ceremony, you can add local traditional rituals. And you can arrive at the place to your guests in a very unusual way - by boat or elephants.

Thailand is also suitable for lovers of extreme weddings. There are also rocks with excellent views, and some couples even sign their names underwater.

The first stage of the Sin-Sot wedding is the bride price

The groom should worry in advance about gifts for his future wife, the main ones of which are always a ring and a cup! The ring is a symbol of fidelity, prosperity and happiness. The guy’s relatives put two bags of sesame seeds, legumes and rice in a cup decorated with flowers in advance; two betel nuts (certainly raw) and 12 silver, copper and gold leaves are also sent there. These are the traditions.

The groom presents a ring, cup and other gifts to the bride on the eve of the wedding. All this action is accompanied by dancing from the groom’s relatives. It looks like this: a procession of smartly dressed guests (Khan-Maak), with flowers and gifts, moves in a dance to the sounds of live music (usually drums) to the bride’s house. Near the bride's house the procession stops, but the dancing does not stop there. Relatives remain on the street, and the groom and his closest friend go to the girl’s house and present her with gifts. This concludes the first stage of the wedding.

You can choose any of the islands of Thailand for an informal wedding ceremony

Everywhere you can find a local wedding planner who can recommend any suitable venues. The number of guests can be any, the main thing is to discuss this number with the organizers in advance. Depending on the complexity of the wedding, local agencies take a month or more to prepare. Particularly exotic options with a large program are prepared for at least 3 months. If you entrust the organization to local specialists, then it is not even necessary to go to the location for control. Many agencies involve communicating with clients during preparation via online communication, and the dress rehearsal is no longer held just a few days before the event. The agency organizes a turnkey wedding and hires all the necessary people, from a simple wedding stylist to a person for registration and a set of dishes that will be on the tables.

Many people choose a wedding location from local villas, which are famous for their gorgeous views of the coast and from here you won’t need to leave anywhere, you can even stay overnight there.

If you want to retire and enjoy the views of Thailand just the two of you, then such options also exist. There will be no annoying bride price and other standard competitions; you will spend time with benefit only for yourself. You can hire a special photographer who will record all the action and send you already processed photographs. This ceremony does not require much preparation at all. Many locals are well familiar with such holidays and the arch and cake can be ordered right on the spot.

Prices for a wedding in Thailand are much lower than in Russia. A standard wedding by the sea, which includes a photo shoot, alcohol, fruit and music, will cost about $800. You can sit quite modestly, without anyone invited.

Cost of additional services in 2021:

  • Makeup and hairstyle for the bride – from $100
  • Wedding dress rental – from $40
  • Video shooting of a wedding from above – from $250
  • Elephant wedding invitation – from $50

The second stage of “Hao-Kwun” - blessing of the monks

On their wedding day, the future newlyweds ask for blessings from Buddhist monks. The Hao Kwun ceremony is translated as “rice and nature spirit.”

Exactly nine monks read prayers before the bowed heads of two lovers.

With their prayers, the monks purify the thoughts of the boy and girl, drive away evil forces and, by irrigating their heads with sacred water, give their blessing. This ceremony ends with eating rice and fruits (the young people bring treats with them in advance).

Why is it beneficial to have a ceremony for only two people and who is it suitable for?

If you are tired of these standard ceremonies, where you need to show guests how great you are and organize banal competitions for relatives, then such a secluded wedding is what you need. You will enjoy each other without prying eyes and take memorable photos. Here you don’t have to think through everything yourself and take care of every guest, everything is done just for you. The local agency will organize everything for you, and you can calmly enjoy the beauty of the local beaches and nature.

Such weddings are organized on private beaches; you don’t have to worry that there will be other people in your photos who have nothing to do with you. As a rule, there is no cake for such ceremonies; local fruits and light snacks are usually used. The speech of the local coordinator may vary, the main thing is to warn about these changes in advance.

A local certificate is issued for you, which confirms the symbolic wedding. What is unusual is that it will indicate a different year from the future, because in Thailand the chronology works completely differently. The Thais are 543 years later than in standard chronology.

After the ceremony, you can be taken to any of the local restaurants or even organized a romantic dinner for two on the beach.

European style wedding

The action begins with the newlyweds walking to the altar along the path under the floral arch. The host of the ceremony makes a speech, after which the newlyweds are given a candle. These candles should be lit at the same time, after which the couple can say some words to each other. A question is asked, consent is obtained, wedding rings are exchanged, a wedding kiss occurs. The newlyweds are showered with petals, glasses of champagne are raised and photographs are taken. After this, the couple performs the traditional planting of a love tree, and a wedding waltz sounds. The newlyweds sign the wedding certificates, and the gala dinner begins.

Often the local sand tradition is chosen for a wedding.

At this moment, two colors of sand are mixed into one vessel. This tradition means that two destinies are mixed into one.

Programs and prices for a wedding in Pattaya:

  • Economy - 9,000 baht (traditional wedding on the temple grounds, conducted by 9 monks. Duration about 2 hours)
  • Standard – 15,000 baht (duration about 4-5 hours, includes a little more traditional parts than the previous version and a more extended photo session)
  • European ceremony – 15,000 baht (takes about 3 – 4 hours, mostly held on a private beach, the price includes the bride’s bouquet, dress, snacks and music)
  • Ceremony on the island - 35,000 baht (everything included is the same as in the European one, but the ceremony itself takes place on a separate island, and not in Pattaya)
  • European and Buddhism ceremony – 25,000 baht (combination of programs in the temple and painting on the beach + 250 minutes of photo session for lovers and their guests)

Programs and prices in Phuket are different; famous people and public figures like to celebrate weddings here:

  • Luxury wedding – 18,000 baht (duration 3 hours, includes transfer and service for 5 guests, the ceremony takes place on the territory of a 5 star hotel)
  • Buddhism - 18,000 baht (duration 2-3 hours in a local temple with monks, price includes transfer for 5 round trips)

Advice! Think in advance about all the little things that you want to see at the wedding, otherwise you may face a high price for additional services. It is ideal to book a simple ceremony a month in advance.

Phuket is best for those who want to take heavenly ceremony photos on the beach. Organization here takes from one to three months. Pattaya is suitable for those who want to have an unusual ceremony in a temple.

Symbolic ceremony

Usually tourists do things differently. They get drunk at the registry office at their place of residence and fly to Thailand that same evening, where photography is already done on the beach, paths of flowers and other attributes of the bride’s dreams.

A symbolic wedding can be held according to local traditions, rituals and ceremonies. In this case, local outfits, decorations and other wedding attributes are used. The ceremony can also be held according to European standards in compliance with the appropriate style. No matter what style you choose, it will be a beautiful and bright holiday for two loving hearts. A symbolic wedding differs from an official wedding only in that it does not require the hassle of paperwork. A huge advantage is that you don’t have to waste time on delays in completing all the necessary papers.

Symbolic wedding ceremonies in Thailand are usually held on the beach. The romance of the sunset, azure sea, and coral sand will make it the most vivid experience of your life. For such a wedding, the beach is decorated with fresh flowers. A couple in love stands facing the ocean and the altar. Drowning their bare feet in the velvet of sand, they give each other vows of love and fidelity. Next, the newlyweds exchange rings and a long kiss, the key to their long and happy life. After drinking a glass of champagne, the newlyweds receive a certificate in memory of the ceremony.

Official registration of marriage in Pattaya or on the islands of Koh Samui, Phuket

Official registration of marriage on Koh Samui

Upon arrival in Samui, at least 2 days before the planned ceremony, you need to report to the local registry office. Have with you: 2 affidavits + 2 translations of affidavits + legalization stamp + foreign passports + 220 baht. The procedure takes about half an hour. The registry office representative will ask you a few questions and ask you to sign. After this, you will be given 2 marriage certificates and shake hands. Registering a marriage in a Thai registry office is an absolute formality and has nothing in common with the solemn procedure of marriage in Russia.

This can be corrected by inviting a municipal officer to register your relationship at the beach or villa. How to do this - ask us! Registry office address on Koh Samui: Koh Samui District Office Ratchadaphisek Road, Angtong, Tel: (+66) 077 - 420879 Opening hours: 09.00 to 16.30 Mon. — Fri. (except weekends and holidays) The map can be viewed here: https://www.google.com/maps/place/Ko+Samui+District+Office/@9.5442169,99.9577662,13z/data=!4m2!3m1!1s0x0:0x3eb05779b8cb8b76

Official registration of marriage on the island of Phuket

Upon arrival in Phuket, you need to appear at the local registry office (at least 2 days before the planned ceremony). Have with you: 2 affidavits + 2 translations of affidavits + legalization stamp + foreign passports + 220 baht. The procedure takes about half an hour. The registry office representative will ask you a few questions and ask you to sign. After this, you will be given 2 marriage certificates (one for each) and shake hands. Registering a marriage in a Thai registry office is an absolute formality and has nothing in common with the solemn procedure of marriage in Russia. This can be corrected by inviting a municipal officer to register your relationship at the beach or villa. How to do this - ask us!

Registry office address on the island of Phuket:

Phuket has three administrative centers (Phuket District Office): Muang, Kathu, Thalang.

  1. Amphur Muang Mae-Laun Rd., Phuket City, Tel: (+66) 076 217 597
  2. Amphur Kathu 51/16 Vichitsongkram Road, Kathu, Tel: (+66) 076 321 133
  3. Amphur Thalang 357 Thepkrasattri Rd., Thalang, Tel: (+66) 076 311 046

To understand which administrative office is closer to your home/location of the ceremony, see the map: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phuket_Province#mediaviewer/File:Amphoe_Phuket.svg

Bride price

Inside the house, a very important moment in a Thai wedding must take place - the payment of the bride price, or Sin Sod in Thai. The ransom amount is agreed upon in advance, usually several months before the wedding. The amount of the ransom is influenced by the age of the bride, her education, virginity and even the income of the groom. If the bride is not educated, she worked in the rice field, then the ransom for her will be small, but if she has a university education, she is young and pretty, then you will need to fork out a lot. If we look at traditional Thailand, or Thailand in the past, parents were often supported in their old age by their daughters and their husbands. Therefore, parents are vitally interested in the reliability and well-being of the future family.

Money for the bride is placed on the fabric, the amount must be even. This is largely symbolic now, since the ransom is often returned to the newlyweds at the end of the wedding. But in the provinces, most often the ransom is paid “for real”. Again, the ransom is written down in official documents and makes the marriage legally binding. If a wife leaves her husband for a reason that is not really important, then the husband can demand the ransom back.

After the bride's relatives are convinced that everything is in order with the ransom, a ceremony is performed to offer food as a sacrifice to the deceased ancestors. This action is intended to inform the deceased about the plans of the bride and groom to get married. Usually bananas, coconut, boiled rice, meat, alcohol and Thai sweets are offered.

The bride and groom then give each other gold rings and jewelry. Senior relatives give the newlyweds money and other gifts. the rest of the relatives, again in order of seniority, congratulate the couple and tie “sai sin” on the wrists of both husband and wife. To do this correctly, you need to first touch the wrist of each spouse and then tie a thread. The newlyweds thank them by almost falling on their faces, unless, of course, it is the youngest member of the family in front of them. During this action, you can have a bowl next to the couple for presenting gifts. As a rule, these are envelopes with money. Usually in this case the amount is 500 baht, no more. This is not the last place and time when you can give a gift to the bride and groom in Thailand.

Cost of the official ceremony

It is possible to officially sign in Thailand, but it takes a lot of time and money, unlike other countries that are part of the Hague Convention. You will have to visit many authorities to officially register your marriage in the kingdom. And this must be done through consular legalization so that the union is valid both on Thai and Russian territory.

Official painting ceremony in Thailand

This means that the documents will need to be legalized with the help of official bodies of both countries: first you legalize them in the Department of Consular Affairs of the Thai Ministry of Foreign Affairs, and only then the procedure is duplicated by contacting the Consular Section of the Russian Embassy in the territory of the Thai kingdom. All this will cost you approximately $200-300 if you arrange it yourself. You can also turn to tour operators for help, who will provide their prices for additional services.

Video: wedding ceremony for two in Thailand

Thailand is a country of exotic romance, worthy of a wedding ceremony and honeymoon. There are many ideas and options for how to have an unforgettable wedding celebration in this amazing country. Focus on your own budget and preferences. And to see for yourself how your ideal Thai wedding can be organized, watch the video below. Here you can learn a lot of interesting things for yourself and get a lot of positive emotions.

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