Think a hundred times!
Of course, all these little things related to organizing a wedding and celebrating it are very important. But. The meaning of a wedding is not to observe beautiful wedding traditions and rituals, but to unite the lives of a woman and a man who love each other. And this is the main purpose of a wedding. Therefore, a wedding should not and does not have to be perfect. There is no need to create panic and unhealthy, neurotic excitement around the wedding celebration.
How many rich and famous people today have registered their relationships without getting married? The same Tina Kandelaki played her wedding with the then poor guy in a very, very prosaic way - marriage registration and dumplings as a wedding dinner. All. And only then, over the years, when their love and faith in each other gave them a start, an impetus, when they had both already achieved a lot - only then did they play an ideal, magnificent, very rich wedding. But already to renew feelings. True love doesn't need an expensive wedding frenzy, it doesn't care how many guests you will have at your wedding and what the bride will wear.
Even if the wedding is not ideal, even if something does not go the way you wanted, then this is not a reason for frustration, and even more so for a quarrel with family and friends, or hysterics and scandals with the groom in public. Treat the wedding as a given: the main thing is that it happens. And how the wedding will go is the tenth matter. It is important that from the moment your relationship is registered, you will be together - officially, legally, openly and honestly before people and God.
Weddings and marriage registration are very important in the lives of both girls and boys, no matter what modern neurotics say. The wedding ceremony, as it were, privatizes the loved one and places a ban on him for all other “potential” partners. No matter how strange it may sound, a wedding is the lot of people who value and value each other more than money and property. A wedding is a clear demonstration of sharing your last piece of bread with your loved one and being a happy person at the same time.
If the whole essence of a wedding comes down to glamor and pomp, then this is not a wedding - but a farce. Which will end very quickly. I generally don’t understand people who get married for money - don’t they understand that they will live someone else’s life, selling their own for delicious food and beautiful clothes? It is sad. And the statistics on arranged marriages are inexorable - sooner or later they end either in divorce or in mutual infidelity, associated with an unhappy childhood for children born in such calculating families.
How to prepare for a winter wedding
In winter it is very easy to register at the registry office, because there are no queues there at all. Any establishment will also be happy to host you and your guests, and the necessary specialists will most likely not be busy with other work. When organizing a photo shoot, you can choose special rooms designed for these purposes and not freeze outside. However, there are also disadvantages. In winter, you will have to do without walking and celebrating in nature. In addition to the dress, the bride will also have to buy a special fur coat, but this is unlikely to protect her from the frost. There is a great chance of catching a cold, not only for the bride, but also for the groom.
Wedding accessories
A wedding celebration is one of the most beautiful and memorable events, both in the lives of the newlyweds and their relatives, and in the lives of their guests (if the wedding is a success.) The young couple receives the close attention of all the guests, photo and video cameras, and it is necessary that there was not a single flaw, not a single error in the image of both the bride and groom, and in the design of the room and cars, invitations, etc. Wedding accessories will help complement and improve the look.
Do you need a stamp in your passport?
Do you need it? Depend for the rest of your life on a person you don’t even love? Sell your smile, your attention, your body, your actions and love for money? Do you think that money is the highest value in life? Then I feel sorry for you, because there is nothing more valuable than love and happiness next to your loved one. If then, after many years or even decades, you subtract empty chatter, clothes, money and expensive toys from your life, will there be anything worthwhile left in it? Or just a broken trough and life as many unused chances to be happy?
After all, as wise people say, the ideal lover is a man, next to whom you understand the meaning of the word “fidelity.” And a wedding, marriage registration is needed precisely by those people, women and men, who are lucky enough to know true love and meet an ideal partner - they already know the meaning and price of fidelity, and therefore they only want to be close to their loved one, they want to live with him and love him openly and for a very long time.
If weddings were really not needed, then people would not have weddings, would not register their love and their close relationships. But every third or even second lover and loving person who has not yet united his life with the life of his beloved by marriage is interested in wedding issues to one degree or another. And these are not just words, but dry statistics: in Yandex, 3 million people were interested in love in July 2009, and 1.5 million Internet users were interested in weddings.
And one more thing: no matter what the advocates of civil marriage and open relationships say, it is impossible to live out of suitcases all your life and wait for the wind of change. Because of your youth and stupidity, you can throw yourself down the drain for ten years, following the lead of changing public opinion regarding the advisability of civil marriages and the advisability of a traditional wedding.
But sooner or later, every person wants basic stability, confidence in the future and their loved one. It is impossible to spend your whole life looking for another, and even better and ideal partner: after all, people do not get younger or more beautiful with age, and their strength does not increase. Therefore, the decision to start a family and have a wedding with a loved one is the decision of adults who have already had their fill of free love and who have come to the conclusion that there is nothing better in the world than to be tied as tightly as possible to the body by legal formalities and the soul of a loved one.
If you have been looking for the right person for ten years and still can’t find it, then this is a serious reason to think - do you know what you are looking for? Do you know yourself and your desires? Because there are always a lot of suitable people around, but to find them, you need to know what exactly you are looking for in a person. And the list of requirements for the chosen one should be short - no more than 3 main points and relate not to appearance, but to his internal qualities. For example, a win-win option for a woman when she wants to meet a kind and smart man.
In Ozhegov's dictionary
WEDDING, s, gen. pl. -deb, f. Marriage ceremony. Celebrate or (obsolete and simple) play a wedding. He will heal before the wedding (said as a consolation to someone who is hurt or in pain; colloquial joke). Prepare for Malanyin’s wedding (so much that you can’t eat it all; simple). * Silver wedding - twenty-fifth anniversary of married life. Golden wedding - fiftieth anniversary of married life. Diamond wedding - seventy-fifth anniversary of married life. || diminutive-affectionate wedding, -i, genus pl. - side, g. || adj. wedding, oh, oh.
Why register a marriage?
There is a great meaning hidden in a wedding: after all, a wedding and marriage registration take the love relationship between a woman and a man to a fundamentally different level - from the moment the notorious blue stamp is affixed to the passports of lovers, they begin to bear responsibility for each other - both moral and material. And this is great - it’s great to be needed by someone, it’s great to help someone, to overcome life’s difficulties with someone, to strive for something with someone and to achieve success together step by step...
Marriage and wedding are a pass into the world of a loving and beloved Woman and a loving and beloved Man, closed to others. Others are not allowed to enter. It has its own rules, its own charter and values.
After all, why is a family created, a marriage registered, a wedding celebrated? So that the feeling of Love can open up and truly bloom. So that one of the lovers or both do not fear for their future, trembling from a nagging and restless feeling of uncertainty. So that they can preserve and carry their bright feeling for as long as possible. So that thanks to Love and family Happiness, the earth will be replenished with at least one more human life. It is very important for a child to be born in an atmosphere of mutual love, care and family happiness.
One can only feel sorry for those who do not understand the meaning of a wedding - they have not yet met their ideal soul mate, next to whom the meaning of the word “fidelity” would dawn on them...
So, you and I agreed that if your wedding is not ideal, then you will not worry about it one bit - the main thing is that as a result of the wedding you will be close to your loved one. And observing all 1000 and 1 wedding formalities and traditions is the tenth thing.
But, of course, organizing and preparing a wedding is in itself a very fun, cool and cool activity that lifts everyone’s spirits. If, of course, you approach this issue correctly.
An offer of marriage
Do you know where the Wedding begins? The wedding begins with a Marriage Proposal! Therefore, an original and cool or traditional proposal on your knees and with a rose in your teeth, a wedding ring in your hands, a marriage proposal is the starting and almost the most exciting moment in the whole wedding mess, because only after receiving a marriage proposal from your beloved man, you can mentally try on yourself the role of a beloved wife and happily agree to this love adventure - building a joint family life.
Where to start preparing for your wedding? In the West, it is customary for special agencies and specially trained people to organize weddings. Our Slavic soul requires scope and personal control of all stages of the wedding preparation process. First of all, you need to decide on the wedding day, submit an application to the registry office, specify not only the day and method of registering the marriage (regular registration or solemn, how solemn), but also clarify the exact time of registration of the new family, pay the receipts.
Future celebrity weddings: Dina Nemtsova
The youngest bride in our material is the daughter of the late politician Boris Nemtsov. Dina, having barely crossed the threshold of adulthood, received an offer from her 20-year-old boyfriend Dmitry - and agreed to become his wife. Next year - when, as the girl hopes, there will be no masks and no fear of getting sick.
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In the meantime, the brunette wears a modest ring on her finger, tries on wedding dresses and responds to reproaches “why get married so young.” Firstly, Dina retorts, she and her boyfriend have been together for three years, and secondly, her mother insists, Ekaterina Odintsova strongly advises against living together without registering a marriage.
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Legal points
It is also worth deciding in advance whether the newlyweds will get married? A wedding is a very important stage in the relationship between two people, and therefore the religious wedding ceremony must be approached very responsibly and as consciously as possible. Getting debunked is harder than getting a divorce. Therefore, if you are not sure of your love to the grave and subconsciously allow for a variety of options for the development of events in your future family life, or if you have not yet lived together before the wedding, then it is better to postpone the wedding - postpone it for a couple of years until you morally ready FOREVER and IRON to unite their destinies.
If you still decide to get married, then before submitting documents to the registry office, it is advisable to talk with the priest, check with him whether it will be possible to get married on such and such a day, ask in detail about the wedding ceremony itself, about things, wedding rings that you need to purchase it for the wedding, agree on the appearance, pay money, agreeing on a certain day and at a certain time.
Please keep in mind that wedding ceremonies are not performed during Lent, or on Wednesdays and Fridays. If you are getting married, you must first register your marriage at the registry office, and only then get married in a church. Therefore, arrange so that the time will first be official registration at the registry office, and only then - a little later (calculate travel time) - the Orthodox wedding ceremony in the church.
In the dictionary D.N. Ushakova
WEDDING, weddings, birth. pl. weddings, women Marriage ceremony. | Celebration of marriage. “He came home from the wedding in the evening a little drunk.” Pushkin. Celebrate the wedding. Play a wedding (reg.). | collected People present at the marriage celebration (·reg.). The wedding is on its way. • He will heal before the wedding (colloquial) - a humorous consolation to someone who has hurt himself or cut himself. For Malanyin’s wedding (bake, fry, cook, etc.; simple) - a lot, so much that you can’t eat it all.
Wedding guests
Well, then it’s a matter of technology. You need to determine the number of guests at the wedding and the wedding budget. Decide where you will celebrate the wedding - at home or in a restaurant or cafe. If at home, then count the expenses, buy groceries and prepare a festive wedding table. If in a cafe, then you need to agree with the administration of the cafe about the wedding day, rent a room for a wedding banquet for one, two or three whole days, calculate the cost of wedding dishes, alcohol, musicians, and pay a deposit. Decoration of the wedding hall, purchase of fireworks, balloons - all this must be discussed, agreed upon and controlled in advance.
Before the wedding, beautiful wedding invitations should be sent out to the invited guests in advance so that they have time to save up money and buy good wedding gifts for the newlyweds.
