100 wedding years: what is this anniversary of marriage called?

What is this anniversary called?

In our country, 100 years of marriage is called a red wedding - it just so happened historically that we love the color red and consider it completely typical for celebrations, and such an occasion, of course, cannot be ignored. Moreover, in the Old Slavonic language the word “red” meant not only color, but also “beautiful”, therefore such a name is very appropriate for a round date.

However, in modern tradition, which requires each anniversary to be tied to a specific material, such a wedding is often called a platinum wedding. The decoding is that this precious metal is highly valued, like long-term relationships, for its amazing resistance to wear, in addition, it is extremely rare, unlike the same gold.

Interestingly, a similar tradition of naming anniversaries also exists in Western Europe , but here the platinum wedding takes place seventy years after the wedding, and later anniversaries are already devoid of any names. This happens because Europeans, where in our time it is customary to build a career and not rush into marriage, are very practical and do not consider it necessary to invent a tradition for something that is practically impossible. And indeed, even for such a platinum wedding, the couple must be at least ninety years old, and for our understanding of this date they must be about a hundred and twenty years old.

Traditions

There are no special gift ideas on this day. Usually, spouses are given warm and cozy home items; children and grandchildren can traditionally give the newlyweds clothes appropriate for the ceremony (parents at this age rarely have the strength to go shopping to choose holiday items for themselves).

Recently, there has been a tendency to give natural products made from sheepskin, cotton, and linen, so that older people can feel as comfortable and comfortable as possible. When presenting any gift, guests must certainly have a bouquet of flowers in the colors prescribed by the occasion.

There are special requirements for the bouquet: it must be original and lovingly chosen. Usually they give beautiful compositions, flower baskets, imitation wedding bouquets in red and white, or pink and red colors, designer works of flowers, fruits and additional accessories.

Since the celebrants are very elderly people, they are given comfortable and warm clothes or household items to create maximum comfort.

How to celebrate the occasion

Few people live to see their 100th wedding anniversary, so there are no established traditions. It is best to celebrate such a date with your family. If the event is organized by great-grandchildren, taking care of the comfort and tranquility of the heroes of the day, it will be doubly pleasant. They should think about the room design and scenario.

Design features

The main shade of the festive interior design will be red, just like the name of the anniversary. Walls, arches, columns, if they are in the interior, are decorated with light fabric and topped with red bows. The windows are curtained with red curtains or white with scarlet lace. The sofa and chairs are covered with red textiles. Dishes, flowers, candles can be in the same color. Suitable flowers include dahlias, freesias, poppies or roses.

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You can dilute the aggressive atmosphere with white or beige tablecloths. This color symbolizes platinum. Red napkins are draped with white ribbons or pearl thread. Scarlet glasses are also diluted with a light color: velvet ribbons or satin flowers. The menu includes dishes at your discretion and taste, but dessert is placed on the table in red: watermelons, apples, pomegranates, strawberries, cake.

Ideas and scenarios

The couple who are celebrating their hundredth wedding anniversary are no longer young. Organization of active recreation will not work here. At the same time, there will be many representatives of the younger generation at the event: great-grandchildren, great-great-grandchildren. It is important to think through the holiday scenario so that everyone is interested. It will consist of the following acts:

• dinner;
• congratulations;
• giving gifts;
• competitions;
• presentation or photo collage;
• surprise moment.

After the official part, so that guests do not get bored, competitions should be organized. They should be calm so as not to agitate the older couple. A question and answer game will do. The host will ask questions about the distinctive features of the spouses or their memorable dates. They should give answers to the questions asked and remember the pleasant moments of their lives. They have lived together for many years, so they must give the correct answers.

During a break from the competition, it is worth showing the couple and guests a photo collage. It will contain memorable photographs telling about the life of the heroes of the day together. Photos can be signed. Instead of a collage, they make presentations or video montages that tell about the lives of spouses and their relatives.

Even more interesting would be the organization of joint compilation of a family tree. The basis for the tree and photograph should be prepared in advance so that the heroes of the day can tell who is related to whom, what year is captured in the picture, and then place the picture in the appropriate cell.

At the end of the holiday, a surprise moment should be organized. This could be a joint dance of the heroes of the occasion. It is worth turning on the music that they loved to listen to in their youth. Loud fireworks should be avoided. Instead, it is better to choose a cake with a fountain.

Cases of the centenary anniversary of marriage in history

For many, a platinum wedding does not seem real, even in theory. Indeed, for a person to live a hundred years is already a feat; to live a hundred and twenty (so that one hundred of them are in adulthood) is incredible luck, but for such an anniversary it is necessary that two people live to reach that age at once! Therefore, it is worth mentioning that so far this not only does not happen to friends, but even the newspapers do not write about it.

The famous Guinness Book of Records, considered the most authoritative in terms of recording outstanding figures, indicates that the longest marriage lasted “only” 86 years. Moreover, Russia has its own analogue of such a book, and according to it, within the country, the longest marriage as of September 2021 lasts even much less - 62 years.

On the other hand, in 2007, the media of different countries wrote en masse that in Azerbaijan one couple still celebrated a similar anniversary. The fact that this case was not included in the reference books does not mean that old people or journalists are lying - you just need to understand that to fix a record you need plausible documentary evidence. In a hundred years, any paper document can become unusable, and in many regions of the world at that time no such documents were issued at all on the occasion of marriage.

Finally, you should also understand that not everyone is interested in records, and not everyone dreams of getting there. For old people, their own peace is often of great value, and they may not even suspect that they have broken a record. In other words, it is possible that a couple with a hundred years of experience living together is even somewhere near you, it’s just that no one suspects it.

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Who succeeded

Thanks to simple mathematical calculations, it becomes clear that it needs to be long-lived. The average mortality rate in our country fluctuates around 60 years. But history says that there were people who celebrated this anniversary. They became the long-livers of Azerbaijan. Loving people lived high in a mountain village.

Niftula Agayev - the “groom” celebrated his 100th wedding anniversary at the age of 126 years. The “bride” Balbai Agayeva was 116 on that happy day. At the moment, no one is ahead of the couple in the longevity of their life together. Earlier, in the same high-mountain villages there was another multi-year wedding.

Secrets of a hundred-year marriage

There is no single secret that will save a couple's marriage. It is necessary to follow a series of rules in order to live up to the big family anniversary. A strong union is formed through working together on oneself. Quarrels and misunderstandings occur in any couple, but there is no need to immediately create a scandal. You should talk calmly and look for compromises in a controversial situation. Respect for each other is the main rule.

The question of how your work day was may seem trivial, but it is not. It means that the other half is not indifferent to the well-being and emotional state of the partner. Any person should speak out so as not to accumulate negativity, which leads to stress.

It is important to find time to be alone together and be able to leave personal space for your partner in order to sometimes meet with girlfriends or friends separately. In any situation, you need to be able to be not only sexual partners, but also friends: share secrets, hug and kiss.

Registering a marriage and hoping that your partner will change is a bad idea. To live many married years together, you should accept each other with all the shortcomings. It is important to be able to forgive, because everyone can make mistakes. Wives are often offended by their husbands because they do not satisfy their desires. The reason for this is omissions. The partner cannot guess for himself what they want to get from him, so you need to speak directly about your desires.

How to celebrate a platinum (red) wedding?

Of course, it is better to spend the red wedding anniversary with relatives and close people . The holiday is organized by the younger generation - grandchildren and great-grandchildren. They must make sure that the spouses feel comfortable and calm.

Do not use red as the basis of your interior – it is too bright and affects the subconscious, causing irritability. Use beige or white

Make sure that only a few elements are red:

• chairs;
• flowers;
• curtains;
• Balloons;
• glasses.

Or, in principle, give up red elements: red color is not conducive to relaxation and celebration, especially among older people. In addition to beige and white, a lemon shade is perfect.

Place the celebrants on a comfortable sofa or chair so that they can lie down if necessary. Behind their backs you can create a composition of a big heart consisting of a hundred small balls.

Interesting intellectual competitions will help you not get bored at the holiday. One of them is “Question and Answer”. The spouses have gone through a century-long life journey together and must know each other from A to Z. The host (or one of the relatives) asks the spouses questions about each other’s characteristics. For example, he can ask a husband, “What is your wife’s favorite book?”, or “How did you meet?” Such a competition will make the celebrants remember their youth and relive the most joyful moments of their life together.

After this, you can show the guests and celebrants a pre- prepared presentation about the life of the spouses . Photos can be ancient or modern. To the story about the spouses, you can add short stories about children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren.

Another interesting activity will be filling out the family tree of the entire family of young people. Take care of creating the foundation in advance, and at the holiday each relative will stand up, say who he is to the spouses, and fit himself into the right cell.

As the final stage, do not choose noisy fireworks - it is better to release Chinese lanterns into the sky . It is possible that the spouses themselves can do this. If not, then let each couple present at the wedding release a Chinese lantern into the sky, and the spouses can watch it from the window.

How to celebrate the holiday?

As you understand, this day cannot go unnoticed either in the family circle or in society as a whole. The 100th anniversary of their marriage is not the first celebration of the couple. Behind us are silver, gold, crown weddings. However, if your loved ones managed to reach such an anniversary, I think the world should know about it. And here you can’t do without the press and television. Newlyweds need to be prepared for this so as not to expose them to unnecessary stress.

But today let's talk about a family holiday. When all the official moments and hype are behind you, gather in a close family circle. Although the word “close” is also not quite suitable. After all, our newlyweds have children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, great-great-grandchildren, and maybe even fifth and sixth generations.

Dear organizers of the holiday, great-grandchildren and the younger generation!

1. Make memorable invitations for all family members and loved ones. Indicate on them the date of marriage of the spouses and today's date, their last name and first name with patronymic. This will be the “official” document confirming their presence at an event of global significance, even if it takes place in the cozy little courtyard of your great-grandfathers.
2. Decorate your party venue with red balloons. This will be associated with the symbolic name of the wedding. White ones are also suitable for beauty and contrast. Make the number 100 from flowers, balloons and other materials at hand.
3. Be sure to take a photo for memory. Just don't store it somewhere in folders on your computer. Print it out and be sure to give it to everyone who is on it. Let it remind them more often of what miracles the great feeling of love can create. And the younger generation knows that making the right choice of a spouse is the key to a happy family life.

What do they give on such a day?

Everyone wants to congratulate the centenarian couple. But what should you give them? It is generally accepted that the older the year, the larger the gift should be. But, in fact, spouses don’t need all those expensive gifts, cars, apartments. When your family and friends live to see this date, you will already know what they don’t need. They certainly no longer need household appliances or modern gadgets. Never give money. This is bad form. And it is likely that they will find it useful:

• Blanket – for people at this age, warmth is most important.
• Sweets, like candy. Just choose them without nuts, without a hard composition, soft ones.
• Home clothes, such as vests, felt boots.
• Platinum rings. As a symbol of a wedding.

How friends and relatives can congratulate spouses

The main thing is to congratulate with all your heart. In this sense, videos dedicated to the spouses, their joint portrait (a great idea is to order a photograph from an artist), hand-made gifts or (for very wealthy descendants) platinum rings, which are given to the spouses before the celebration or worn in a separately thought-out ceremony, are perfect. during the feast.

An approximate scenario for celebrating 100 years of married life should include several points that you simply cannot do without on this day:

• congratulations to the heroes of the day, which are said by each of the guests or a representative of a separate family that is present at the anniversary (it is very touching when a child does this);
• presenting gifts (if there are a lot of guests, in both cases it is appropriate to have a presenter leading this ceremony so that it does not drag on and turn into turmoil;
• cutting the cake and distributing it to the guests (if candles are burning, you can blow them out for everyone at the same time and make a wish, on this occasion it will certainly come true);
• the ceremonial introduction of the spouses’ favorite dish, which they choose together, and it should be very beautifully decorated;
• festive competitions that may be of interest to those celebrating the anniversary (the most extravagant dance, reading of poems written for the occasion, a competition for the best memory of the years lived together).

The closest relatives should ensure that all the necessary attributes are present.

Although in modern conditions, the arrangement of the celebration can be entrusted to a company that deals with various holidays, which knows the features of such weddings and is aware of the attributes and subtleties appropriate to the occasion.
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The main idea of ​​a gift on this day is to express your feelings and gratitude for the years you have lived together, so it is not particularly important what exactly they give to each other, the main thing is that the item brings pleasure to your beloved half. Usually this is a decoration with a special meaning, which is exchanged between the heroes of the day and then worn for the holiday.

Platinum jewelry or inexpensive red beads, cufflinks and a medallion - at this age, any gift has a deep symbolic meaning for them.

What to give spouses on their anniversary?

1. Don't forget, this wedding is platinum. You can give the couple jewelry using this noble metal. This could be a new pair of wedding rings and small pendants or crosses.
2. Since previous couples who have achieved such a wedding are highlanders who most often keep sheep, give the spouses sheepskin products. These can be slippers, vests, rugs, blankets and much more.
3. In addition, sheepskin products are famous for their analgesic, anti-inflammatory and restorative properties.
4. Give a photo frame in the shape of a family tree with photos of family members and the newlyweds, of course. And never forget those who gave you life
5. On this day you can present any red gift. Starting with a bouquet of scarlet roses and ending with red brocade curtains. Although you can simply present any gift in red wrapping paper.

But the most important gift will be your love and attention, care and guardianship for them.

Gift ideas for husband and wife

Of the indispensable attributes of a celebration, only the most mandatory ones can be indicated; everything else depends on the accompanying circumstances. Traditionally, on such a day there is an indispensable red or white color in the design, and the number 100 must be present everywhere:

• festive red and white balloons (in the amount of 101, and you can have 101 of both red and white), if the holiday is planned to be pompous and takes place in a large room (balloons can be complemented with satin ribbons or beautiful bows in the desired color scheme);
• flower bouquets in red and white shades, although pink is also allowed as a symbol of marital tenderness;
• the number 100, made in any form, is present above the entrance to the room, and in the interior, above the heads of the spouses sitting at the table;
• wedding invitations are always handed out, which can be kept as souvenirs (very beautiful cards with text, factory-made or hand-drawn, soft toys with the number 100 attached, engraved souvenirs or symbolic tokens);
• the newlyweds' clothes are designed in red and white colors or symbolically complemented by any red attribute (a flower in the buttonhole of a jacket, a silk ribbon with numbers, or the inscription 100 years of marriage, a medal on a ribbon hung around the neck indicating the reason for the celebration;
• a huge (or small, depending on the number of guests) cake, on which there is an image of hearts or symbolic figures of husband and wife;
• the table is decorated with white dishes, red napkins, a tablecloth and ribbons (you can do the opposite, but you will have to look for red dishes);
• personalized cards are placed on the plates indicating the degree of relationship or closeness of the guest to the heroes of the day, and this is also a memorable souvenir;
• At the request of those present, you can light 101 candles on the festive table or cake, or set off fireworks by going outside.

Red (Platinum) Anniversary Gifts

A whole century of marriage is a serious and almost unrealistic age for a married couple. The husband and wife stop paying attention to material things and increasingly need love and care. Of course, in any case, the wife needs to be presented with a bouquet of red roses .

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If you still decide to choose a gift, then give the spouses:

• a picture that the artist will paint based on a photograph of them together;
• two comfortable massage chairs.

A woman at any age wants to look beautiful, so as a gift for her you can choose jewelry like this with diamonds and rubies, symbolizing the color of the holiday .

Older people love to talk about their lives. Listen to them this evening , spending it over a delicious dinner. Take part in the conversation, ask your spouse questions - there must have been a lot of interesting things in their lives. It is possible that their experience will help you create your own strong and friendly family, and spouses who have lived together for a century will be a good example in this.

Gifts, decorations for the holiday, preparation for it - all this is important. Thanks to your care, the spouses will feel comfortable. Let your main gifts be attention and participation; they will help the celebrants feel your love and prolong their life.

Original and practical gifts

On this day, it is better to give useful and practical gifts, although you can also give a work of art that will remain in the family and will remind you of the rare and beautiful holiday experienced on such an occasion.

Close relatives and friends can donate money if they know the unfulfilled dreams of the heroes of the day, for the implementation of which a certain amount is not enough. Perhaps these funds are needed for sanatorium treatment, going to the theater or concert.

Such a gift can be placed in a beautifully decorated envelope shaped like a red bouquet of your favorite flowers. If a cozy soft blanket is not enough for comfort, then you can give it as a gift. Every time they take refuge in it, the spouses will remember the donor. A tablecloth and towel would be a good gift.

If the celebrants want to keep up with the times, then they will be pleased to receive some household appliances as a gift. This could be a new TV, vacuum cleaner, multicooker, iron or meat grinder. The main thing is that they need this item.

Here you will learn how to celebrate the 100th wedding anniversary and what to give to the celebrants:

A 100th wedding anniversary is a wonderful and rare event that few manage to live to see or even just attend. What do you think about this? Please share your opinion with us.

The best gifts for anniversaries

It is difficult to surprise old people with anything at this age, because they have already experienced and seen so much. A period in life has begun when spouses do not pay attention to material things. It is important for them now to feel the care and attention of loved ones, so the most suitable gift would be a symbolic object:

• photo collage;
• bouquet of scarlet roses;
• portrait;
• video greeting;
• souvenir for memory.

A photo collage will remind an old nostalgic person of the best moments of life. In the video, relatives will say pleasant words of congratulations to the anniversaries or tell interesting stories related to them. The artist will draw a joint portrait of the spouses from a photograph.

The heroes of the occasion will be surprised by a rare item from their long-ago youth, which is now almost impossible to find. It is only necessary that it be associated with pleasant moments in life, and not negative events.

In old age, spouses will be pleased to receive a gift with a symbolic meaning, for example, a medallion made of two halves. One of them is worn by the husband, the other by the wife. It is better to give them from platinum, but other available metals are also suitable. Old people love to tell how they lived. They will be pleased if on this day they are listened to, supported in the conversation, and asked questions.

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Congratulations in different countries

Major anniversaries are celebrated differently in different countries. For example, in Great Britain, relatives of celebrants write a letter of congratulations to their centenarians. The letter is sent to Buckingham Palace. Beginning with the golden wedding, the monarch personally signs a greeting card, which is specially packaged and sent to the happy family. It is very interesting that the letter is delivered by regular mail. The monarch then goes through a similar process of congratulations every 5 years. A wedding at 100 years old is also called a platinum wedding in the UK. Russia at the end of the 19th century also adopted the tradition of celebrating wedding anniversaries. Here they have a name based on the number of years lived, or on a symbol. Previously, anniversaries were celebrated only in the registry office. Later, and for now, if the couple wishes, they can have a second wedding ceremony at any chosen location. But in the USA there are no names for anniversaries like we have. Back in the 50s of the last century, they created a “List of Anniversaries”, which is valid to this day. There are no wedding symbols listed there. This list only shows preferred gifts.

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In Europe, the 70th wedding anniversary is known as platinum, but the 100th wedding anniversary has no name at all.

Their marriages take place later, and at a very old age, parents are rarely allowed to live in the family, preferring to put them in a boarding house or nursing home, which is essentially the same thing.

Recently, only one 100-year wedding anniversary is known, which took place in Azerbaijan almost 12 years ago, which was covered by the media, but did not make it into any record books, and this is sad. Even if this is not an absolute record, the fact that the spouses have lived together for a whole century since their wedding day deserves the loudest and most beautiful celebration of their lives and inclusion in any list of record holders compiled in the social aspect.

In modern life, even a golden wedding has become a rarity, because marriages began to take place later, and divorces became more frequent.

But even before there were few such examples, so there are no special traditions for celebrating 100 years of married life, and those that exist can be used depending on the situation.

It is better to develop the scenario individually and hold a celebration that is unforgettable for both the celebrants and the guests present.

It is difficult to give special recommendations, because the spouses must be at least 115 years old at this time, and it is not known what their health status is, whether they understand the importance of what is happening, or whether they can move independently. At this age, remaining sane and having a sound memory is already a rarity, and not getting sick is an even rarer occurrence.

Usually this is a holiday for family members, where several generations are present, but the location of the anniversary is chosen independently, depending on the financial situation.

Zinc wedding: how to celebrate the anniversary?

The holiday can take place in different ways, it all depends on the mood, as well as the desires of the spouses. If the couple already has small children, it’s time to send the kids to visit grandma and have a romantic day: go to lunch at a restaurant with good cuisine, then visit a cinema, and in the evening have a dance at home or in a disco club. For those who do not want to part with their child(ren), a water park or amusement park is a suitable option for an interesting holiday with children. The couple will be pleased to admire the fruits of their love.

The zinc anniversary is not a round wedding date. At the same time, if the spouses want to invite guests, a short list of close relatives and friends is ideal. A close social circle will create a cozy atmosphere; those present can indulge in pleasant memories of how the relationship of a loving couple began. It will be good to look at a family album; friends can also bring funny pictures of them together, and parents can bring pictures of their children.

Although a gala celebration usually does not involve inviting many guests, the decision still remains with the celebrants. For those who want to refresh their relationships with a large-scale holiday, the option of organizing a banquet is suitable, where they can invite friends, relatives, good friends, and work colleagues.