Initiation of parents at the wedding to the new titles of mother-in-law
The ritual of “Unification or twinning of families” at a wedding.
While working on the wedding scenario, in particular, detailing the program for the second table, I often thought about the question: “Should I or should I not carry out the ceremony of “Unification or twinning of families” at a wedding?” Let's just say: despite the fact that this ritual has a very long origin and deep roots, its implementation has its supporters and its opponents.
In my opinion, the only criterion for the toastmaster to make a decision regarding the ceremony can be the desire of the bride and groom or their parents, expressed to the leader in preliminary negotiations. And also simple common sense. For example, for some reason, parents are not present at the wedding or there are too many guests at the event and the second wedding table is clearly delayed.
A few words about how best to conduct the ceremony of “Unification or twinning of families”:
- It is best to carry out the ceremony for a spectacular and romantic end to the second table of the wedding;
- the timing of it should be as short as possible so that guests do not get tired and run away in all directions;
- It is advisable to conduct the ceremony in a bright, imaginative, interesting way so that everyone would want to watch it;
- The props that need to be prepared are minimal - a beautiful glass and short supporting texts for its participants;
- It would be right if you prepare the bride and groom and their parents a little for such a ceremony, telling briefly about the purpose and essence of it.
Before inviting the ritual participants to a prominent place where all guests could see and hear what was happening, I always said a toast “Bitter!” - for parents:
You are a little sad today - your children are leaving you. But, probably, this is how it is necessary, So that the hour of parting comes.
How long has it been since they, timid, walked barefoot under the table, clubfooted, inept, plowed their feet on the floor.
And today you had to part with your adult children completely. “Bitter!”, “Bitter!” parents, “Bitter!” So that children can live happily! "Bitterly!"
I would not like to retell here how other leaders conduct these rituals - this can be found on the Internet. If you came to my blog, then you wanted to know how I spend it.
My advice to the presenters is to try to understand the essence of the ritual and talk about it to the participants in your own words, not from a cheat sheet. You may remember that two lovers - the bride and groom - unite two families at a wedding. And the symbol of such a union has always been considered a ritual cup of wine or other alcoholic drink, but it can also be non-alcoholic. At the wedding you have the opportunity to:
- call your significant other’s parents mom and dad;
- say kind words of gratitude to the parents;
- parents can say kind words to their newly acquired adult child, accepting him into their family;
- take turns drinking (sipping) from the ritual cup of friendship and harmony or from a beautiful wine glass the drink of twinning of two genera.
After a brief introduction to the ceremony, the toastmaster addresses the groom’s parents in verse:
"Expensive ______, ________! You raised your son well! He has truly grown into a man. He is the family's support and stronghold.
Like an eagle he spreads his wings. We wish, dear mother-in-law, that you and your daughter-in-law do not share, that you increase your love. »
The parents are given a cup. Taking it in their hands, they take turns saying their parting words to the bride and son. They call her daughter and kiss her. They pass the cup to their son, who says something like this:
“I won’t say mother-in-law, father-in-law, but better – mom, dad! And I drink a glass to them while standing!
After all, they raised and raised my soul mate for me. »
Then he kisses his new parents, handing them the cup. And the bride’s parents, calling their son-in-law son, say beautiful parting words to him and kiss him in turn. Next, after taking a sip from the cup, the bride’s parents pass it to their daughter. And the bride says:
“Today I raise a glass to my new mother and father,
That they raised and raised such a young man. For me, such a young man. »
The bride drinks from the cup, which she hands over to her husband with a sincere and calm kiss.
You can complete the ceremony of “Unification or twinning of families” with a wonderful toast given by the toastmaster:
“With the approval of the people, I proclaim my toast: “Let two strong families live as one friendly family.
Let two matchmakers and two matchmakers not know sorrowful worries. Let their grandchildren please them when the time comes.”
To parents and their children - glory, praise and honor! Let everyone drink to the bottom for this. »
Of course, how this ceremony will take place largely depends not only on the toastmaster, but also on its participants, on all the guests.
New parents, will you pass the exam?
The parents of the newlyweds are rightfully considered the same heroes of the occasion as their children. And if not the same, then “the first after.” In addition, it is on the wedding day that mothers become not just mothers, but mothers-in-law and mother-in-law, and fathers become fathers-in-law and father-in-law. Before taking on these “positions”, before assigning these “titles” to parents, you can arrange a small family “exam”, based on the results of which the “positions” and “titles” will be legitimized.
Exam for moms
Presenter: - Dear mothers! From today you have new children, and you probably already love them. But it’s not enough to just love children, especially new ones, you also need to know them well. Now we'll see how well you know them. vote. The groom, please choose two young men from among the guests, and the bride - two girls, and now, young people, find a place in the hall from where you can be clearly seen and heard and you would be at a decent distance from your mothers (who are now They are most likely sitting in their places at the head of the table). Boys, stand temporarily apart from the girls. That's it, everything is ready to start the “exam”. Who will hand it over first? Okay, let's start with the mother-in-law, I'll explain the essence of the task. Valentina Nikolaevna! Now I'm going to ask you to turn away. Then the young men, and among them your new son, will say one and the same phrase in turn. Your task is to answer us: how will your son-in-law’s voice sound? Young men! I suggest the phrase “Mother-in-law, I love you!” Not too complicated? Well, good. Now Valentina Nikolaevna will turn away, and as soon as I point at one of you, you pronounce this phrase loudly and clearly. Dear guests, get ready to rate your mothers: if they answer correctly, you must clap so hard that the whitewash falls from the ceiling and the light bulbs in the chandeliers burst. So, everyone is ready, Valentina Nikolaevna, turn away and listen carefully. (The presenter randomly points to the boys, they pronounce the chosen phrase (it may be different), the mother-in-law gives an answer. It is better to close your eyes to possible “hints”, and a possible incorrect answer “as if you couldn’t hear” so that the mother will definitely answer correctly .)
Beautiful wedding congratulations for mother-in-law
In this festive article you will find a variety of wedding congratulations from talented Russian poets for the groom’s mother, called mother-in-law from time immemorial.
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Cool entertainment for ransom
As you know, a girl is not given away for marriage just like that. If previously a rich dowry was taken from the groom and his parents, now the bride price at a wedding consists of competitions for the groom, that is, carrying out comic assignments during the lover’s visit to his chosen one in front of the registry office. The best wedding competitions for the groom at the ransom are below.
- “What is better for the bride?” A shallow basin will be required. The bride's witness asks the groom a question about what our young woman needs most in this life. In this case, the groom must place the object of the bride’s desire in this very basin. Some young people get confused and start putting money, jewelry, and sometimes bottles of alcohol into dishes. But in fact, everything is much simpler - the groom must stand in the basin himself.
- "Pear and compliments." Now the groom's company is already in the apartment, a few meters separate the lover from the bride - she is in another room. At this moment, the young man is given a pear with 10-15 toothpicks stuck into it. For every toothpick - a compliment. When the “trees” come to an end, the groom can be allowed to meet the girl. By the way, after the competition it is customary to feed the pear itself to the witness.
- “Who was born when?” Most grooms are afraid of this competition - they need to name the dates of birth of the bride's closest relatives. Moreover, for each incorrect answer there is a fine: a bottle of alcohol (this option will especially please the father or young brother), small symbolic amounts of money, an apple. If the groom gave money, then it is advisable to return it to him after the wedding, although this point remains at the discretion of the competition organizer.
These small cool wedding competitions for the groom on the way to the bride kindle the ardor in the groom - he only thinks about how to quickly cope with simple tasks and see his chosen one in a beautiful white dress!
Instructions for mother-in-law at a wedding
Move around in the kitchen until the blood froths. Jokes, smile - that’s why you’re a mother-in-law. Accept your daughter-in-law as if you were your own, warm her, caress her, feed her.
You become her support, protection, friend, And when granddaughters are born, she will also become a servant. If she can’t do something, don’t judge her, but rather, teach her kindly.
Protect from evil tongues and from harm. And help the family arrange their daily life. If you don’t want to lose your son, mother-in-law, you must accept your daughter-in-law with your heart!
And then your old age will be comfortable. The daughter-in-law will be very useful.
— How to strike sparks for the dying fire of love? - Yes, it’s very simple, you need to push your mother-in-law and mother-in-law together.
Mothers-in-law, remember that mindlessly following the advice “don’t leave your children alone in the bathroom” can leave you without grandchildren.)
Mother-in-law on my wedding day
We raised our son for more than 20 years, raised him, took care of him somewhere, Now he has become a real man And you and your father were able to do this
For you, he will forever be a child. Let him be a little capricious, but at least dear. Once he was in your arms in diapers. Today he will become my husband.
I promise to give care The warmth and tenderness of my whole soul I will not turn my love into work What will happen only God can decide
Thank you for letting us into your family and helping us build our own. We have not forgotten your efforts. Thank you for your contribution to our family.
We wish you many years, patience May fortune smile on you And, despite the opinions of strangers, May the world always fall at your feet
Patience to you and more mental strength May bad weather not rush into your home We wish you magical success And may your soul live in peace
Mother-in-law is an actress, boss, nutritionist, encyclopedia and radio all rolled into one
New mother-in-law
Congratulations on your new title! I hold this title myself. And believe me, because of the title, I became even taller.
It makes you more tolerant, and wiser, and stronger, in some ways stricter, in others softer, more just and kind.
Don't change, that's the point, stay the way you are. The daughter-in-law fell in love with her son because he is all like his mother.
Expect your children to visit more often, invite them to your home. Here it is - mother-in-law's happiness is measured - in what!
So, rejoice for your son, even more than twice as much,
Gioconda’s smile appeared on her face when her beloved said: “I want to introduce you to mom. I think you will become friends with her."
My son got married, you know you're a mother-in-law
Your son got married, you know you're a mother-in-law. Your daughter gets married, you become a mother-in-law. When everyone has their own home, it's easier to establish relationships.
Don’t irritate with your visit in vain And don’t give smart people advice, Don’t meddle in someone else’s business, So that you don’t regret it later.
In their house the host is not a guest; And even if there is sometimes sadness in your soul, don’t complain about your problems and don’t bother me with requests.
Look at everything from the outside, Don’t go into the bottle like a genie. Those who were once children Live by their own rules.
Honeymoon and switched off phones - a brilliant idea that allows you to spend your honeymoon without parent-in-law control
Keeping your mother's wisdom
And you will win love, Like a mother, and not a stern mother-in-law, You will always be a dear guest, Mom, beloved grandmother.
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