A wedding is a beautiful and solemn event, it is the day when loving hearts unite their union and become a family. Each nation has its own traditions and customs that have arisen over centuries. A Tatar wedding is a reflection of the cultural identity and is a symbolic celebration.
The modern wedding of the Tatars is very different from those celebrations of past centuries, but those families who respect their culture, observe traditions, still try to adhere to and follow them.
A Tatar wedding takes place according to an unusual scenario for other peoples; it differs in the special congratulations of the newlyweds and the incredible richness of the table. The Tatars are a Muslim people; it was religion that left a significant imprint on their wedding celebration customs, adding mystery and color.
The newlyweds will be glad to hear congratulations from the guests in their native language.
Customs and traditional wedding celebrations by the Tatar people
According to tradition, among the Tatars all festivities take place in the month of November; it is at this time that all work in the field ends.
The first stage from which a Tatar wedding begins is matchmaking. The parents of the future spouse meet with the mother and father of the bride, discuss all the details necessary for the marriage, including the wedding date, the amount of kalym (ransom) for the beloved. The parents of the future wife try to give consent to a worthy groom who asks to give up their daughter. Following matchmaking, there are the following stages, such as engagement and conspiracy.
A distinctive feature of a traditional Russian wedding is that the bride's parents pick up the groom from home and take him to his future wife in order to spend their wedding night. When celebrating a wedding among the Tatars, in compliance with all traditions and rituals, in order to get into the house of his beloved, the groom must pay a bride price. Nowadays this step is often skipped. It should be noted that basically all the costs of wedding events fall on the shoulders of the girl’s parents, since traditionally it was established that the bride should have a rich dowry.
Winter wedding in Russian style
Nikah is one of the rituals that the bride and groom undergo. It has some similarities with weddings among Orthodox peoples. Young people who want to get married stand in front of the mullah, he initially reads a prayer, and then gives them instructions. This ritual is the first step in a Tatar wedding, after which the newlyweds can already remain alone. At the end of the ceremony, the newly invited couple went to the wedding house. It was in it that the consecration of the bed took place. Those invited to a Tatar wedding touched the feather bed and placed a few coins in a saucer prepared in advance for the ceremony. The guests left the house and only the bride, an elderly relative, remained in it, who was teaching the girl how to traditionally receive her husband.
Celebration
The Bashkir celebration traditionally began with a small wedding, to which older relatives were invited, who met at the time of matchmaking. The ceremony itself took place in the bride's house.
The ritual process was conducted by a mullah; he asked the bride's father a question regarding whether he agreed to give his daughter in marriage. Having received a positive answer, the mullah read lines from the Koran and registered the marriage in his birth register.
Only after this process could the groom enter the house of his bride and be called her husband. After all the rites and rituals were completed, the most important celebration began - the Tui festival. Wealthier families celebrated this event on a grand scale, held races, games, and treated guests to various national dishes.
But in the absence of a luxurious feast, everyone was understanding of the modest celebration and rejoiced at the wedding.
The fun continued for 3 days. After the Tui celebration, the girl had to leave her home and move to her husband's house.
But according to Bashkir traditions, this process required special efforts from the groom and his relatives. The female relatives of the bride did their best to prevent the bride’s departure by performing various “pranks.”
According to ancient custom, the girl's bed was tied into a bundle and carried into the forest. She was tied with ropes, the ends of which were hidden under the roots of trees. The bride herself was seated on an unmade bed, and after that an active “struggle” for the girl began between the relatives of the bride and groom. Despite the fact that this process was quite fun, it brought some costs to the family, since the clothes were spoiled.
Before the departure of her already established wife, she had to say goodbye to her relatives.
At the same time, the girl entered each house in the company of four friends, who held a scarf over her head.
The young wife gave each of her close relatives a tablecloth, a towel and threads
. As a token of gratitude, the girls gave money. At the end of this ceremony, the young bride put on her best attire and sat in a cart, on which she went to the groom’s house.
According to tradition, the process of seating a young wife in a cart must be accompanied by resistance on the part of the girl. She could only obediently agree after receiving a gift from her father and brothers. Before crossing the threshold of the groom's house, the girl had to kneel three times in front of her husband's parents.
In turn, the fathers-in-law, as a sign of respect and approval, each time raised the young woman from her knees. This was followed by an exchange of gifts. Guests prepare congratulations in the Tatar language.
Celebrating a wedding among the Tatars
All nations have peculiarities of celebrating a wedding; they are unique and interesting. Tatar wedding traditions completely permeate the celebration at all its stages. Depending on the nationality of the invited guests, the wedding can take place in the Tatar language, or in Russian or another language that everyone knows and understands.
Wedding traditions determine the places for the bride and groom, as well as guests, during the feast. At a celebration, young people always sit at the head of the table. The relatives of the future husband, a witness on his part, must sit next to the bride, and her parents and girlfriend must sit next to the groom. The right side is traditionally occupied by the groom's relatives, and the left, in turn, by the bride. Initially, the guests present are introduced. Traditionally, the toastmaster was chosen from those present, but now sometimes the services of a professional are used. It is this person who will entertain everyone on the wedding day. You can congratulate the newlyweds both in Russian and in your native Tatar language.
Dishes that are necessarily present on the wedding table of the Tatars:
- fruits;
- chak-chak is a kind of cake, which must be decorated with montpassier sweets;
- two geese. They are sometimes served to guests with pilaf;
- kalach;
- soup;
- Gubadya;
- meat cooked with onions and carrots.
- drinks: strong - vodka, compote was always present on the tables, and tea was served at the end of the event.
Caucasian wedding
Modern Tatar weddings sometimes move away from traditional celebrations. In addition to the obligatory dishes and drinks, there are others on the tables.
Another interesting point in the wedding tradition of the Tatar people is that as night approaches, the newlyweds must dance their first dance together. At this moment, they move away from modernity and immerse themselves in the culture of national dance.
According to tradition, at the end of the feast, the newlyweds go to the bathhouse. This custom is not accidental. Tatars believe that the power of water cleanses.
Before leaving the bathhouse, the groom dressed himself in clothes that the bride had sewn for him and presented her with gifts.
After the bath, special wedding pancakes await the son-in-law. While eating, he must, unnoticed by those present, place a coin under the plate. According to legend, it is a symbol of good luck.
Another interesting ritual is caressing. The bride should sit face down in the corner and sing sad songs. For example, about humility. Invited guests, as well as relatives, should come up to her, pat her on the back, calm her down and give useful advice and instructions. My parents always spoke Tatar. The bride received gifts from those present at the ceremony.
Initially, the groom stays at his beloved’s home for four days, making various offerings to her family. A girl is engaged in needlework and presents wedding gifts made with her own hands to her husband.
The final stage of the wedding celebration is the wife moving to her husband's house. According to Tatar customs, a feast must be arranged. Elderly neighbors are invited and a “bridal show” is arranged. The bride is greeted with honor and a fur coat is laid at her feet, always turning it inside out or the pillow. Bread and honey are mandatory treats for the bride. Tatar wedding traditions include the following custom: after moving to the groom, the bride’s hands are dipped in flour. A mandatory gift at this stage is livestock.
Armenian wedding
Decorating the house with the bride's handicrafts is also an important moment in the last stage of the wedding. The girl always consecrated the needles and the foundation of their house together with her husband, which is new to her - this, according to legend, means that she will be in harmony with her husband and his family.
Congratulations on Nikah in Tatar language
Nikah kone belen kotlybyz. Kurkem tormysh sezge telebez. Gaile bulyp kavyshtygyz, Ber-berezne yaklap yashegez! Yaratygyz, shashyp yaratygyz, Ham elbatte hormet itegez! Leopards and bulsyn very tertip, Mullahs tormysh sezge telebez! Behet, iminlek hem tynychlyk, Gailegezne balalar gorlätsen! Hoday gailegezne saklasyn, Without telebez sezge unyshlar! (translation in verse) Congratulations on Nikah Day. We wish to live in harmony. Be a mountain for each other, If you have become a family! To be loved, adored, and certainly respected! So that everything is in order, Let's wish you to live in abundance! Happiness, peace and goodness. To be surrounded by children. May Allah protect your family, We wish you all the best!
Nikah kone belen kotlybyz, Tatulykta yasheuuegezne telibez! Gailegez bulsyn bik nyk, Yashegez sez tik yaratyshyp. Elbette khormet itep, yaratygyz Ber-beregezne saklagyz Sez. Shep gailė iken disenner, Duslarygyz soklanyp karasynnar! (translation from Tatar in verse) Congratulations on Nikah Day, We wish you to live in harmony! May your family be strong, so that you can live only by loving. Be sure to respect and love, and take care of each other. So that when your friends look at you, they say: “Cool family!”
Nikah kone, nikah kone bugen. Seznen kavyshkan konegez! Bekhet belen tula kunelegez, Gel shulai barsyn tormyshygyz. Ber yorektey bulyp tipsen, Seznen parly yoregegez. Bugen birgen vegdeler, Gomerlekke saklanson! (translation in verses) Nikah Day, Nikah Day Today is your Union Day! Your soul is full of happiness, May life always be bright. Let your hearts beat together lovingly, Now your hearts are paired. The vows given to each other today, Be able to keep them for centuries!
Nikahygyz boilers bulsyn! Bugen sez ir belen khatyn, Bashka gailәlәr өchen Үrnәk bulyp homer үtsen. Bugen sez bakhetle, matur, Tormyshygyz sezne n ballur, Saklagyz gyna barysyn, Ikhlas Allam da saklasyn. (translation from Tatar) Let your nikah be happy! Today you and your wife are a husband, a beautiful example of your family. May everything be complete for the couples. Today you have happiness, joy, But life is fragile, like crystal, You take care of this sweetness, Allah bless you, together into the future.
Nikah belәn sezne kotlybyz, Berlәshmәgә bәkhet telebez, Tormyshta һәlakәt bulmasyn, Gailә bizәklәre mәңge kalsyn. Bulsyn sezә bәkhet, mәkhәbbәt, Balalar beәn yort tulsyn gөrlәp, Kaigy-khәsrәt bulmasyn, Afәtәn kүk kүkrәmәsen. (translation from Tatar into Russian) Congratulations on your nikah, May your union be happy, May it not end in failure, May the bonds be eternal. We wish you love, happiness, Children, a full, full house, May there be no troubles, no bad weather, May no thunder roar over you.
Bugen sez gailә korasyz, Bugen bәyrәm yortygyzda, Nikah belen sezne kotlybyz, Telibez mәkhәbbәt sezgә. Yashlәrebez, bәhet bulsyn, Өegezdә sezne kөtsen, Bala kөlүe taralsyn, Uңysh, hislar sezdә kalsyn. (translation from Tatar) Today you are one family, Today is a holiday in your house, Happy Nikah, dear friends, Love to you, our young ones. Let there be happiness in your home, Let children's laughter be heard there, All the best, success to you in volume, And let the feeling remain in you.
Yashlәrgә bugen nikah ukyldy, Kүklәrdә Khoday kavyshtyrdy, Mangegә ir belen khatyn alar, Tormyshlary bәkhet belen tuldy! Yullarygyz bulsyn gel yakty, Ber-berezne saklagyz, Әti-әnigә onyklar bulek itep, Ber-beregezne yaratygyz! (translation into Russian in verse) Young people celebrate Nikah today, Allah united them in heaven, Now they are forever husband and wife, Life is now full of happiness! We wish you a bright journey. So that we can take care of each other throughout our lives. May they give grandchildren to their parents and love each other very much!
Kaderle, khөrmәt yashlәrebez, Matur-matur bүgen konegez, Nikah tuegyz belan without Kotlarga and ashygabyz. Yөrәklәregez shәp tipsen, Mahәbbәtegez kүp yashәsen, Tormyshta shatlyk bulsyn, Tazalyk, mullik kersen. Tattoo yashәgez, yashlәr, Bulsyn һәrkөn bәhetlәr, Bulsyn duslyk, yaratu, Iminlek, khөrmәt itү. (translation into Russian) To respect our dear young people, On a beautiful day we came, To congratulate you on Nikah, We are in a hurry. Let your heart beat, Love always lives, Life laughs healthy, There is beauty in abundance. Live together, young people. Great happiness to you, dear ones. Let there be friendship, and let love be prosperous again.
Bugen boten kunaklar җyeldy Yashlarne kotlarga dip. Tugan balalarybyzdan yanalyk kilde! Nikah konegez belen kotlybyz! Yavyzlyksyz yashәrgә telebez! Season saylavygyzny huplyybyz! Tugan kyzybyz һәm shәp kiyaү! Tuy bәyrәme yamle үtsen! Mahәbbәtne gel koyash yaktyrtsyn! Tattoo һәm dus yashәgez! Ber-beregezne һәvakyt saklagyz! Onyklarny yes bulek itegez! (translation in verse) Guests have gathered today to congratulate the newlyweds. We all received news from the children of our relatives. Happy Nikah Day! We wish to never know evil! We approve of your choice! Dear daughter and cool son-in-law! May your love last forever! Live peacefully and carefree! Always take care of each other! Well, give me grandchildren!
Congratulations on the wedding of the Tatars
It all depends on your language proficiency and the ability to learn a few phrases.
Tatar wedding congratulations for newlyweds in their native language will delight the newlyweds. It will not be difficult to read congratulations to Tatar guests without hesitation, but, for example, a Russian person needs to prepare in advance. Hearing congratulations on the most memorable and joyful day in their native language, the newlyweds will undoubtedly be happy.
First of all, for a person of a different nationality, you need to choose the words that he wants to say to the newlyweds. The easiest way is to read the wish in prose, which does not contain complex words. Here you can resort to a person who speaks Tatar or write wedding wishes and translate them using computer programs.
A Tatar wedding is imbued with the same feelings and emotions as the celebration of other nations, but it is based on traditions that are directly related to religion. The Tatar modern wedding departs from some traditions of past years, but there are those who still observe all the canons as much as possible.
Tatar wedding
1 day. Bride ransom. When the parents of the bride and groom have come to an agreement and discussed all the conditions for marriage, preparations for the wedding begin on both sides. Before the ceremony, the bride is washed and covered with a scarf. The bride's relatives line up in a semicircle and hold candles in their hands. Thus, they meet the groom and his relatives. The groom buys the bride, usually in the form of presenting various gifts to the bride's relatives. Then a mullah is invited to the house to conduct the wedding ceremony. The mullah, in the presence of everyone, asks three times about the bride’s consent to get married, and only the third time does she agree. Agreeing means crying. With the same question, he turns to the groom and, having immediately received consent, conducts the wedding ceremony. This is followed by a feast in the bride's house. All guests, according to their seniority, say wishes to the young people and make gifts. Gifts are presented during the dance; parents start dancing first. This is the “Dance of the Matchmakers”, then the “Dance of Brothers and Sisters”, the next “Dance of the Witnesses”, the final one is usually the “Dance of the Cooks”. After the feast, the groom goes home, and the bride stays behind. Day 2. Registration. Before registration, a small table is set with sweets and soft drinks. Behind which, standing, the brothers and sisters of the groom and his parents gather. Mother of the groom: “I want to wish you a sweet life, a smooth path, without bumps and dimples.” Let the good journey begin well and end well! (She can pronounce all this in her own language.) Then the groom gets dressed and goes outside. Relatives and invitees stand there in a circle and dance. Any girl can dance with the groom before leaving. Finally, everyone goes to find the bride. In the bride's house, meanwhile, a farewell ceremony is taking place. The bride is dressed by her friends in a wedding dress. She says goodbye to her friends, then kisses the hands of all the older relatives and says goodbye to her mother and father. The groom picks her up and they go to registration. After registration, the newlyweds go to the groom’s house with all the guests, they are met by their parents and showered with candy, millet, and money. The rest of the groom's relatives also stand with candles and greet the bride's relatives. The feast will not begin until the last relative of the bride arrives. The newlyweds are escorted to the room or house where they will live. The celebration begins, music sounds, the boyfriend and boyfriend appear first, they dance in front of the young people, thereby seeing them off to the table. Guests stand on the sides and sprinkle them with flower petals, sometimes they simply throw flowers at them. To the accompaniment of national music, all four slowly approach the table and sit down at it. The elders choose the leader of the table, who must be a witty and respected person. Presenter: - Dear (names of the bride and groom), today the sun has risen for you, today all the flowers are blooming for you, today the stars and the moon are shining for you, today all the songs are sung and music is playing, today your family and friends have gathered for you , to wish you happiness and goodness, to wish you a bright path in life. First toast to the bride and groom! (Guests drink while standing, and sit down only after the elders.) Presenter: - We all know and respect the parents of the bride and groom, they are wonderful people, they raised and raised wonderful children, so now we give the floor to them. (Parents say wishes.) Presenter: - Dance of matchmakers! Music plays and parents come out to dance the national dance. During the dance, they give money to the young people, holding bills between their fingers, or if the gift is of a different nature, for example a car, then keys. The young people are not dancing yet, witnesses dance for them, and they collect gifts for the young people. Presenter: - Let your life be honey, let your speeches be sweet! The dance with tables of sweets is performed by (names). Only women from the groom's side dance the table dance. This can be a small table or tray on which there are sweet pastries, fruits, candies, etc. Tables are presented to the bride and groom as a gift. Presenter: The floor for congratulations is given to the most respected person (name of the elder), please greet him with applause. The guests applaud, then after the toast the elders drink while standing. Music plays, and the women stand in a circle, clasp their arms from behind and dance a special dance. Both old and young women take part in the dance. During the dance, the older woman shouts parting words for the bride. Presenter: - I invite the bride to dance with her first beloved man, with her father. The guests stand in a circle and clap their hands rhythmically, the bride and father dance, and the groom stands in a circle. Then, the father brings the bride to the groom and says a parting word. Presenter: - The dance of the bride and groom is announced! The dance of the bride and groom can be just a slow dance at first, then the tempo of the music changes and they move on to a national dance, during which all the guests try to give them money or gifts. The dance can go on for quite a long time, so a friend and a friend help them. When the donated banknotes do not fit in the hands of the newlyweds, a specially chosen woman, usually the groom’s aunt, comes up and puts everything in an embroidered apron. At the end of the wedding, it is she who announces the amount of money donated and other valuable gifts. Host: - Well, now we’ll play “Shuba”. A game is played and two pairs are selected. Take a fur coat, put on one sleeve for a boy, the other for a girl, so that the buttons are at the back; it is not necessary to fasten it, you can simply tie it with a belt. Two chairs are placed in front of them at a distance of two steps. The girl has apples and the boy has candy in bowls on the chairs. Players must swap apples for candies, one at a time. The couple that does it faster wins. The host gives the floor to everyone present at the wedding, according to seniority. At the end of the wedding, the chefs also dance; they can also be thanked for the deliciously prepared dishes. If desired, you can insert other competitions and games that correspond to modern weddings.
