What rules exist when preparing for a wedding?
1. Having received an offer, first tell your loved ones about the upcoming wedding, and then post a photo with the ring on social networks. Not the other way around!
2. Introduce each other's parents before the celebration.
3. When planning the date of the holiday, remember that it is considered good form to have a wedding for which you do not need to take a day off from work or go to the office the next day. It's better to choose Saturday or at least Friday.
4. When compiling a list of guests for a wedding, remember that it is customary to invite those who are not free along with the couple.
5. When inviting a guest with a partner, find out the name and write it on the invitation. The wording “+1” is not entirely polite, try not to use it.
6. According to the rules of wedding etiquette, families are invited to the celebration along with their children.
7. If some guests come from another city or country, it is customary to help them with hotel accommodation.
8. Do not invite guests to your bachelorette or bachelor party who are not invited to the wedding itself.
9. If the bridesmaids or groomsmen must wear a certain design or color, then according to the rules of wedding etiquette, you pay for them. Not everyone can afford a dress code that meets your requirements, so young people must bear such expenses themselves.
10. Don't be indignant or offended if someone can't come. Circumstances can be different; you shouldn’t spoil your relationships with dear people because of them.
Psychology of marriage: why suddenly “this is not the right person...”
The most terrible discovery that newlyweds make already in the first months of marriage: “This is not the person with whom I linked my fate.” What is happening and why do people change unexpectedly? Everything is much simpler; it is not so much the partners themselves that change, but your attitude towards their actions, words, and habits. New priorities emerge, and spouses look differently at each other’s individual characteristics.
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During the candy-bouquet period, a man and a woman are just winning each other’s love, and after marriage the ardor cools down. The partner no longer seems so valuable. The situation is made even worse by the fact that the characters are fully revealed. Each of the spouses continues to take care of their ego, completely different pictures of the world and dissimilar family traditions collide.
Everyday little things become a daily ordeal for newlyweds. Isn't it stupid if a family breaks up because the husband likes salad with mayonnaise and the wife likes vegetable oil? Yes, it seems funny, but in practice this is exactly what happens to couples who get divorced in the first year. People do not live up to each other's idealistic expectations and become disappointed. The psychology of marriage helps to understand how to cope with these difficulties.
Rules of etiquette at a celebration
11. Don't make guests wait for hours while you do a photo shoot during a walk or before a banquet - it's impolite. Arrange a photo shoot in the morning or another day.
12. Chat with each guest for at least 5 minutes. Don’t let someone get your attention all day long.
13. If you are a guest, do not wear a white or light beige dress so as not to visually compete with the bride. This rule of wedding etiquette seems outdated, but there is nothing more unpleasant for most brides than seeing other girls wearing white on their day.
14. If you invite parents with children and more than 3 children to the party, call an animator and provide the little ones with something to do within the visibility of their parents.
Possible problems on your wedding day
How to put on a ring in hot weather?
Natalia Gurenkova, photographer: Take chapstick with you to the wedding and lubricate your finger with it before the ring exchange ceremony, even if the ring was loosely put on the day before. Fingers tend to swell overnight or from heat. You don't want embarrassment during the most important event in your life, do you?
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Yana Sumina, photographer:
- • It's definitely worth having a plan B in case your photographer doesn't show up. Even if they promise you that everything will be fine.
- • You ordered fireworks. But they did not inform the site about this. Or they reported, but a couple of days before. And the site tells you: “But we don’t have fireworks, we have a nature protection zone.” Or a fire show, or foil confetti... The solution is to coordinate the program and all its details with the site (ideally in writing) at the time of writing it and do this before you book the appropriate specialists. Because refusal of services on the day or on the day of the event is a loss of both services and money.
- • You ordered great live music. The group has arrived... without equipment. How did you know that it was necessary to discuss the backline, sound engineer, additional sound, etc.? Well, add about the same amount to the cost of the group for equipment. The solution is to write down in the contract with each specialist all the details of the provision of services and everything that is necessary for this.
- • You still rubbed your feet with new shoes. And now in all the photos you see only pain in your eyes. No, Photoshop won't fix this. So even if you were born wearing heels, if you have high-heeled slippers and you also sleep in heels, throw a pair of flats in your bag with your things. Just do it.
- • Rain. All brides are afraid of rain! And you will have to accept this day as it may be - and either feel it, live it, have a blast to the maximum, or lament how bad everything is.
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What if it rains?
Maria Ryabova, organizer: Do you know what is the most popular question that brides ask me? Of course, “Masha, what if it rains?” And the more often the bride asks this question, the more in her subconscious this word thickens like clouds - “rain, rain, rain, rain!” And all the preparation revolves around this imaginary rain, the bride walks around with such a cloud over her head, you know?
First of all, think positive thoughts and make wishes on the weather! The power of thought is great power!
Secondly, as practice shows, in summer it rarely rains for the whole day. Most often they are passing or short-term, and during the whole day there will certainly be an hour for the ceremony without rain! And even if you’re unlucky, and at the most crucial moment “the one who cannot be talked about” comes, the organizer will take care of your guests, that’s what the organizer is for (and if there isn’t one, that’s what umbrellas are for). And don’t even think about moving your ceremony area under the roof - it’s unsightly in front of guests and can damage the structure and appearance.
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Thirdly, you can’t even imagine how much beauty and romance this notorious entertainer brings, how beautiful the photos will be and how long your special registration will be remembered!
Irina Guseva, photographer: Often brides are very afraid of cloudy weather, I can boldly say as a photographer - you shouldn’t be afraid of it! Especially in the summer, especially in the middle of the day. Because the weather is cloudy:
- • will add contrast and depth to your photos
- • will remove unsightly hard shadows
- • In addition, the temperature is also pleasantly pleasing on a cloudy summer day.
If you are still afraid of unexpected rain, here are some tips:
- • Bring a large umbrella. It should be either a dim, solid color or completely transparent; such umbrellas look very stylish in photographs.
- • You can also bring rubber boots, it will be fun and bold!
- • Find a nice, open place to park your car. For what? To film in a car! Of course, the photographer will have to get wet, but the photographs will turn out very interesting and stylish.
- • You will also need a person to carry the umbrella.
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Rules of wedding etiquette during the banquet
15. If possible, seat young parents at the same table to “unite” your families.
16. Don’t make a “singles table” where only those who are currently single will sit. While the idea of putting everyone together and facilitating familiarity seems good, it is actually quite rude and makes people feel uncomfortable.
17. It is customary for divorced spouses with bad relationships to be seated at different ends of the hall.
18. It is better to seat older people next to those they already know.
19. If the invitees include people with chronic illnesses that affect their diet, or those who have consciously avoided certain foods (for example, vegetarians), make sure that they will find dishes that do not disrupt their diet.
20. Do not collect money “for a boy”, “for a girl” or other strange reasons. Extorting money from guests has long been considered bad manners.
21. During the banquet, raise a toast to your parents and say kind words to them from the bottom of your heart - this will become a warm and dear gift for them.
A happy marriage is possible - 6 tips from family psychologists
All newlyweds know in advance that it will not be easy for them: relatives, friends and every thematic article on the Internet report this. Everywhere advice is given on how to live happily ever after, but most of it is abstract. “Love each other, give in” sounds wonderful. How to do this in practice? Let's look at the “technical” side of the matter.
Family obligations: how to accept the feeling of “duty”
Being accountable is a real challenge. By the way, the main argument of divorced people: finally, I don’t have to report to anyone. In moments when spouses experience tenderness, it is easy for them to communicate where they are and what they plan to do. But it often happens that partners get angry with each other or simply forget to call. This is a small thing, but it makes the other half doubt and worry.
Advice from a family psychologist. View the need to report not as an unpleasant responsibility, but as a way to maintain trust in the family. If you can't call, send an SMS. If some actions are repeated regularly (for example, you are late at a meeting), you can create message templates. This will help prevent serious quarrels, suspicion, and jealousy.
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Little wedding tricks.
Hello! Summer is wedding time. Are you familiar with wedding traditions, various signs, folk and Orthodox ceremonies, rituals and little tricks that allow you to preserve family happiness for many years? For example, why are happy newlyweds sprinkled with small change, candy or wheat? Which wedding signs promise a happy life, and which are harbingers of misfortune...
I would like to introduce you to some wedding signs and superstitions, perhaps they will be useful to you:
* The young are sprinkled with attributes of prosperity and happiness (rose petals, candy, coins, grains) so that they never need bread and money.
* Coins are placed in the glasses of the bride and groom. To ensure that there is always prosperity in the home of the newlyweds, they need to be kept at home under the tablecloth.
* If you do not drink two bottles of wedding champagne, but tie them with one ribbon and save them, then the newlyweds will definitely celebrate their wedding anniversary.
*Massive wedding rings add to the wealth and prosperity of the newlyweds.
* Marrying with your parents' rings is a repeat of their family relationship.
* Young people going to church to get married or to register at the registry office need to attach pins to their dress and shirt so that they are not jinxed.
* Before the wedding, the bride can cry a little, then the marriage will be happy!
* To leave behind all past troubles, the bride must jump over the ribbon before entering the church.
* In order for the marriage to be long and prosperous, so that the newlyweds live in peace and harmony, after kissing on the bridge while walking, the spouses lock the lock, the symbol of their family, and throw the key into the water.
* It is also a beautiful tradition to release a pair of white doves. You can tie pink or blue ribbons to the birds' feet to find out who will be born first in the family - a boy or a girl.
* The wedding cake must be cut by the bride, and the groom helps her and supports her with a knife. This is a sign of mutual agreement and helping each other.
* According to traditions that came to us from the West, the bride lines up all her unmarried friends and, turning away, without peeking, throws her wedding bouquet to them. The friend who catches him will get married faster than the rest.
* Just as the bride throws her wedding bouquet to her unmarried friends, the groom pulls the garter off the bride's leg with his teeth. This attractive moment of the wedding ceremony, which has already become familiar at our weddings, is awaited by guests from the very beginning of the celebration. This attractive and mysterious piece of lingerie for a wedding in Moscow is thrown by the groom into the crowd of single friends, of whom the lucky one and the new owner will be the one who catches it!
* If the bride and groom sneakily eat one chocolate bar for two, Life will be sweet!
I wish you good luck and good mood!
