Blessings from parents at a wedding
A parental blessing is, in essence, their permission for their children to marry, along with sincere wishes for all sorts of family benefits.
Even now, young people planning to get married try to get a blessing so that there will always be happiness and love in their new family. This ritual can be carried out according to all the rules; for this, all its participants must be baptized. After all, this happens with the help of the icons of the Mother of God of Kazan and St. Nicholas the Pleasant or the Savior. But now the ceremony can be significantly simplified, the main thing here is the sincere words of the parents, their wishes for peace, joy, kindness and happiness .
Parting words to the bride before the wedding ceremony
Traditionally, this happens before the wedding itself in the parental home. Before going to the Wedding Palace, the father and mother of the bride address their two children - their daughter and her groom - with parting words and wishes.
What to tell your daughter
Before the groom arrives, mom and dad can bless their daughter separately.
General “words of encouragement”
So you have grown up, daughter, and are about to fly away from the family nest. May your choice be correct, and may your family be friendly and strong. Respect your future husband, because now he is your support and protector, love him with all your heart. Daughter, we wish you a happy life in goodness and prosperity, healthy children who will delight both you and your husband, and your dad and me.
Words from the mother of the bride
Daughter, I am happy that you have found your path in life. She will now be associated with (name of the groom). While raising you, I tried to give you as much as possible - knowledge, feelings, teach you everything that a real woman should be able to do. Therefore, I am sure that this guy is a worthy person. Be happy in this marriage. May bright love always accompany you two, and may there never be discord in your family. Be, daughter, the happiest and most beloved woman in the whole world!
Wishes from father to daughter
Daughter! You are my only child and you know how much your mother and I love you. We are very worried about you now, and we will always be worried. It’s hard for me to give you to someone else’s house, but I believe in you and your choice. Therefore, I will try to accept your future husband as my own son. Be a faithful and kind wife to him. May there always be peace and mutual understanding in your new family. And the worries of creating this kind atmosphere of warmth and tranquility fall on your fragile shoulders. Be strong and patient, know that love can overcome all life's adversities. May your new family be happy!
Blessing of the bride and groom
- Our dear children! We bless you for creating your family. May she be prosperous and happy. Take care of the tenderness that you have. Live for each other in the name of goodness and your love. Be happy together!
- Dear (names of the young people), our dear children! We want to say our final words of encouragement before you become husband and wife. We wish you to create a strong family, for the joy of everyone - happiness for you and joy for the people! Let harmony and love always accompany you on the path of life, and in times of adversity, become support and support for each other. Be always happy!
- Children! (Names of newlyweds)! Today a new path begins for you - a common one. May it lead you to a world full of love and tenderness, family happiness and all-consuming goodness! Let the light of loving eyes help you overcome all difficulties, and let the warmth of hearts beating together and merging into one warm you in any bad weather. Love each other, appreciate the feelings you have now. Then the new family will be so happy that it’s just a sight for sore eyes. Blessings!
- Advice and love to you, children! Today you are starting your family. You, daughter, on this day also give us a son. His happiness is now as important to us as yours, because it will be common to both of you. Divide your love between two, thereby increasing it and elevating it. Let each of you appreciate the other, help in everything, understand and accept him. We wish to preserve the blessed fire that lit your hearts. It will help on the difficult path of family life, making it brighter and easier. Happiness and prosperity, joy and peace to your family!
When is a church marriage dissolved?
A marriage can be dissolved only for a few very important reasons, such as:
- because of adultery;
- when one of the spouses betrayed his faith;
- in case of injury, after which marital cohabitation is impossible;
- illness with incurable contagious diseases or diseases as a result of adultery;
- sentence to imprisonment;
- prolonged absence for unknown reasons of one of the spouses;
- encroachment on the life of the second spouse or children;
- incurable spiritual illness;
- chronic alcoholism and drug addiction;
- a wife committing an abortion with her husband's disagreement.
By and large, before entering into a marriage that is sanctified in Heaven by the Lord Himself, you need to think very carefully. It’s better to just register the marriage in the registry office, live as husband and wife for some time, and when you already feel for sure that the marriage will be eternal, then go to church.
Parting words to the groom before the ransom from his father and mother
The parents of the groom, as well as the bride, say words of blessing and parting words several times . The very first time this happens is when young people announce their intention to start a family - on the day of their engagement. And right before the wedding - even before the son leaves the house to go after his future wife.
Religious
Just as faith is strong and indestructible, and mead is sweet, in the same way let the family of (the son’s name) with (the name of his bride) be indestructible by any adversity, strong in faith in each other, sweet in their love. Let them be inseparable, starting right from this day and this minute - only together, so that not a moment apart from each other! Amen.
Parting words from the bride's father and mother at the celebration itself
If all the previous speeches of the parents made before the wedding were relatively short, then after the marriage the parents can allow a few more words and wishes .
- Dear daughter, dear son! We lived with (name of the bride's mother), my wife, for many happy years. There was harmony and harmony in our family. We raised a wonderful daughter who always tried to help us and pleased us with our successes. And now you, daughter, have become an adult and found a man who has become your husband. You will have a new family, a separate one. But know that your mom and I will always support you if you need help. At the same time, I am sure that (name of the groom), your husband, will be able to cope with any problems. He is a strong and worthy person. We are happy that now we also have a wonderful son. Children, be happy with each other, give love and joy, and give your mother and me grandchildren. May you live happily ever after!
- Dear (names of the newlyweds), children! Today you begin building a beautiful structure - your family. My wife and I, having lived in harmony (the time that the bride's parents have been married) for years, know that it is not always easy. Therefore, it is a little sad that you, daughter, no longer fully belong to our family, that you need to go your own way. Whatever it is, I am sure that your husband will be able to support and understand you in everything. He's a good guy, we're glad we can call him our son. Build your life like a beautiful, bright and warm home, in which there is a place of love, joy and children, which is full of peace and tranquility. Having invested your soul in building your family, you will definitely be rewarded with happiness and prosperity. Joy and all the best to you!
My beloved daughter and (name of the groom), my new son! Don’t look that I’m crying - it’s out of joy for you, my dear children. Your family was born today. Let this day be just the first of an endless number of happy days warmed by your love. Live together, enjoy every minute, try never to leave each other for more than a few hours. Face all adversities together, then they will turn into nothing. And happiness divided by two will increase tenfold. And most importantly, love and honor each other!
What is a blessing
While in church, when reading prayers at home or meeting with a priest, Christians ask for a blessing, meaning by this word or action something good.
The blessing of the priest is the blessing of the Lord himself through a person on earth
As Christians, we constantly say “bless” without deeply delving into the meaning. Already in the first chapter of the Bible we read that God blessed Adam and Eve to a fruitful life, to power over all earthly creation.
We receive a blessing not from the priest, but from the Creator himself, this is:
- God's power;
- His protection;
- anointing;
- God's cover.
The Lord blessed Abraham, who lived childless until he was 90 years old, with numerous offspring, including Jacob. The grandson of Abraham and the son of Isaac, he became the ancestor of 12 tribes, from one of them, Judah, Jesus was born, the Son of God sent to earth. God blesses not only parents, but also children. Through the laying on of hands, Jacob received his primacy in the family. Jesus blessed the food and the apostles, His successors later also blessed people through the laying on of hands, thereby transmitting Divine power.
Important! By blessing a Christian, the priest reveals the grace of God over him, recognizing the primacy of God himself in a given situation.
Blessing is prayer, unity with the Almighty and the Holy Trinity, the call of Divine power into the life of an Orthodox believer. Believers can bless each other, putting into the meaning of this action a call for God's help in the life of another person, while emphasizing that without God's help all our thoughts and aspirations are in vain.
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The Creator tells us through Holy Scripture that His Word is filled with power that brings victory to all situations in the lives of Christians. In the 28th chapter of Deuteronomy, the Lord described point by point the types of blessings and the conditions for receiving them, and there is also a warning there so that curses do not come into our lives.
The anointing for business, health, family life received from God has great potential to grow and multiply. This can be observed in Orthodox families leading a truly correct lifestyle. The Blessing God grants us anointing through His servants, priests, who are not mediators between God and people, they are those who stand closest to the Creator and know how to communicate with Him better than others.
A Christian who has received a blessing should spread it by giving praise to the Lord.
Parting words to the son and “new” daughter from the groom’s father and mother
Dear children! Today means a lot to all of us. I thought I was losing my son, but in fact I had found a wonderful daughter. Now my family has grown, this is also happiness. I bless you, live in harmony and appreciate each other. Let ringing laughter always be heard in your home, and let the smiles of two loving people give light. I wish you healthy children, to the delight of grandparents, to help mom and dad. Cherish the love!
My dear son and (name of the bride), his wife. Thank you! Today has made me much richer - now I have a daughter. Son, look at this girl who has become your wife. She's beautiful. You must be worthy of her, be a protector and support. Love each other, children, keep your feelings for life. Then your life will be bright and clear, full of bright moments and quiet joy. You and your mother have our blessing, and the main thing is that you have each other.
Blessing of parents at a wedding: how the ceremony takes place
The blessing of parents at a wedding has been a very important wedding ritual since ancient times. The blessing of parents means their permission for their children to register an official marriage. During the blessing, parents not only allow their children to get married, but also say parting words to the young.
In the old days, children who married without the blessing of their parents were considered sinners, and all the people around them condemned them. A family created without parental blessing was initially considered unhappy, and the church had the right to refuse these spouses a wedding.
Nowadays, the ritual of blessing is not taken as seriously as before, but in a simpler form. But the main thing here is not the process itself, but its essence.
How everything happens in the temple during a wedding
The wedding ceremony looks beautiful, mysterious and exciting.
- The groom and the witness enter the church first, then the bride and the witness and/or arm in arm with the father.
- Upon entering, the groom stands to the right of the entrance, the bride to the left, and the witnesses behind them.
- Walking around the lectern with crowns above their heads must be done quietly and carefully so that the witnesses can hold the crowns straight.
- During the service, you need to stand quietly, be attentive, not talk, but carefully delve into the ritual. Otherwise, you may get the impression that those getting married did not come for the grace of God, but for the sake of fashion or tradition.
We must understand that the time of prayer during the wedding process is of great importance for the entire subsequent life of the newlyweds, who must pray fervently during the ceremony. The fact that the wedding takes place in the temple means that the groom receives his wife from the Lord himself and their new, pure and holy life in marriage begins.
How does the ceremony of blessing parents take place at a wedding?
To begin with, it is worth noting the fact that in the world there is no one scenario for the ceremony of blessing parents at a wedding that is mandatory for everyone.
Therefore, at each event, this ceremony takes place in its own way, based on the traditions of a particular family and taking into account the preferences of the newlyweds and their parents.
But still, when conducting a blessing ceremony, all its participants must be baptized, and also agree and are ready for this ceremony.
The bride and groom receive their very first blessing before the wedding at matchmaking, when their parents meet at a common table, agree with their children’s decision about marriage and begin discussing the future wedding.
At a wedding celebration, the blessing ceremony usually takes place in two steps: the first time the parents bless their child at home before going to the registry office to register the marriage or to the church for the wedding, and the second time when they meet the newlyweds in front of the banquet hall where the celebration will take place, with bread and salt .
For the blessing ceremony, parents on the groom’s side buy an icon of Christ the Savior, and parents on the bride’s side buy an icon of the Kazan Mother of God.
Before the first blessing ceremony, it is customary to wrap the icons with a new towel, then the parents turn them to face their children and cross them three times, and only then say parting words. All this happens in secret from everyone.
The second blessing ceremony takes place more festively in the presence of both the newlyweds and all invited guests. At the same time, the parents of the newlyweds say parting words to their children, holding icons and a loaf of salt on a towel in their hands.
Words of blessing from parents to young people
Just as there is no general plan for conducting a wedding blessing ceremony, there are no obligatory words that the parents of the bride and groom must certainly say when blessing the newlyweds.
Let us give an approximate plan of what should be said to the parents of the newlyweds when blessing them.
- The groom's parents speak first.
First, the groom’s mother blesses the young couple’s marriage, says that she will be glad to see and welcome her son’s chosen one in her home, is ready to help and support her, and in return asks to carefully preserve the new family hearth. - And the mother directs her son to show love and respect for his wife. The groom's father joins the mother's words and wishes his son to be a real man with a capital M in his family, an exemplary husband and a caring father for future children.
- Then the turn goes to the bride's parents. First, the father speaks, asking his son-in-law to treat his most precious treasure - his daughter - with respect and love, and also to protect her from all troubles and misfortunes, and to always be there. The mother on the bride's side speaks last.
Perhaps my mother’s words are always the most touching and heartfelt. She blesses their family for a happy family life, wishes them to overcome together all the difficulties and hardships along the way, give birth to and raise beautiful children.
What to do with icons and towels after the ceremony of blessing by parents?
After parting words, parents baptize their children with icons and let them kiss them, and also invite the young ones to bite off a piece of the loaf, sprinkle it with salt and eat it.
Believing newlyweds can place these icons in a prominent place in their home. An unbelieving married couple keeps the icons wrapped in a towel in a separate place in the house.
But the most important thing is that these icons cannot be given to anyone from outside or re-gifted. They need to be protected as a family heirloom and passed on to future children from generation to generation.
This is what an approximate plan for blessing a young couple with their parents looks like, if all participants in the ceremony are Orthodox Christians.
If the blessing ritual takes place in a family of atheists, then icons are not used in this case, and the ritual itself consists of parents simply saying parting words and wishes to their children.
It happens that parents deny their children a blessing, which may be due to various reasons. But in this case, you shouldn’t despair, you need to wait a little.
It is possible that after some time, parents will see their child’s chosen one in a different, better light, they will be able to discern in him those qualities and character traits that their child liked, then they will finally accept the child’s choice and bless the young couple for marriage.
And, it is possible that the parents will turn out to be right that they refused the blessing and the chosen one of their daughter or son is not such a good person as their child initially thought. In any case, it takes time to figure everything out.
The main thing is that parents really approve of their children’s choice and sincerely wish them a happy family life, and are also ready to help and support their children.
What is a blessing and how to ask for a blessing from the priest
- these are the actions of the priest aimed at wishing goodness to the person who came to him asking for a blessing. In other words, this is a special prayer, the words of which depend on the person’s conversion. And this is also considered the approval of God, of any matter in the person of the priest.
Many parishioners of the church , meeting the priest on their way
, want to ask for his blessing. But often they do it wrong. Of course, there are no mandatory canons on how to ask for a blessing from a priest, but still, in order to answer the question of how to receive a blessing from a priest, you need to know certain rules. First of all, all those asking should know that they need to ask for something that really exists. For example, you cannot ask for God’s grace for marriage if you do not yet have a bride or groom. Consider an example of obtaining approval from a priest for marriage:
- Before you get approval, you need to get a groom (bride), agree on everything, and then come to the priest and ask for guidance so that everything will be fine in this matter.
- You will be asked whether your chosen one belongs to a different faith and whether this is done by consent of both.
- After this, he will approve and say: “God bless.”
The ritual itself also occurs in a certain way. In order to receive the blessing, you need to approach the priest, put your right hand on your left, with your palms facing the sky. Then say: “Bless, father!” Then the sign of the cross will follow.
The priest performs this rite with his hand, folding his fingers so that they depict IC XC - Jesus Christ. Thus, the Lord himself blesses us, through the priest. Afterwards, you must kiss the priest’s hand, this will mean that we are, as it were, kissing the invisible hand of God.
When to ask for a blessing from the priest
Previously, no believer traveled far
and did not perform any important deeds without the blessing of the clergyman. It was believed that it was prayer and God's grace that protected a person from troubles and sins. Now they don't take it so seriously. So, when should you take a blessing from a priest? Lately, believers have been asking for blessings:
- On the road.
- To do well in exams.
- To do the work.
- For the correct upbringing of children.
- To make some kind of purchase and so on.
If you are going or just planning to go on a long journey, then it is best to get parting words from the priest. All this is done to ensure that the road is calm.
, without incident and brought only joy.
When preparing to take exams or do work, you can take approval so that everything you plan will work out and nothing will interfere with you on your way.
In order not to doubt the correctness of your methods of raising children, a priest will also help you. He will advise, show and bless. Afterwards there will only be a small chance that you might do something wrong.
God's grace can and should be asked for with or without reason. For those who are regular visitors to the temple, instead of saying “Hello” and “Goodbye”, the priest blesses you. By the way, it is also forbidden to greet the priest with a handshake; only certain individuals have the right to do this.
In order for your purchase to benefit you and not cause any problems with it, you also turn to the church. There are no restrictions on what specific issues and deeds to ask for God's grace. It is important to remember that there is no need to be baptized before or after the ceremony.
A priest has the right to bless while not only in the Temple and the sacred cassock, but also while outside the church in civilian clothes, but only in specific cases. Ask and you will be heard, and your words and actions will be blessed. Don't forget about responsibility. As they say: “Trust in God, but don’t make a mistake yourself.”
Is it necessary to receive a blessing for fasting?
Fasting in Orthodoxy is a time of abstinence. If possible, permission or blessing for fasting must be taken. But if for some reason you do not have the opportunity to go to church and do this, then you, of course, can fast on your own. The blessing for Lent, for example, is the day of Forgiveness Sunday. On this day, all Orthodox Christians gather in church and ask forgiveness both from each other and from the priesthood for voluntary and involuntary offenses. Fasting is our sacrifice to God. And the Great One carries the meaning of Jesus’ forty-day fast in the desert.
Although all believers do not necessarily have to hold church fasts, it is important to ask for a blessing in order to refuse fasting for one reason or another, for example, due to illness.
How to correctly ask for a blessing from the priest for childbirth or surgery
To make you feel calmer during childbirth or during an emergency operation, contact your priest. Order a prayer service before childbirth, let the priest bless you and your child for an easy birth. There is no set time to take a blessing for a future birth or surgery. You can contact the church with these at any time, either a week or several days in advance.
Don’t forget that you also need to take communion. Of course, the priesthood will ask you about when your event will take place and other details. Don’t be afraid that you won’t be blessed, the priest will find time for you, listen and help you figure out your plans. You will not be left without God's grace. The blessing ceremony itself will follow the same pattern as in the example described above with the blessing for marriage. However, basically, all blessings are given in this way.
People who at least sometimes come to the temple have probably observed how people approach the priest with their palms folded together (right on left) and ask for something. What is this? Why are they doing that? When should you do this?
This action is called a blessing, so we ask the Lord for grace through those who act according to His will, through the priests. Genesis 12:3 reads:
“I will bless those who bless you, and I will curse those who curse you; and in you all families of the earth will be blessed"
The Church did not establish special canons for blessings, but there are still traditions that are observed. This is a kind of etiquette.
Blessing can have different meanings.
1. You and I, every time we meet and say goodbye, we say: “ Hello. Goodbye
"
Men shake hands. This is not the way it is done in the church. Instead of a greeting, we ask for a blessing. We say: “ Father... bless
.”
—What to do if there are several priests nearby?
First we approach the senior priest, and then the others.
—What to do if it is not possible to approach all the priests, for example, if you are at a meeting with them, but it is not possible to approach each of them?
You need to take a blessing from a sitting priest or someone who knows you, and bow to the rest, bowing your head slightly. This way you will show respect to everyone.
Only those who are equal in rank can greet and say goodbye to a priest by the hand. The rest, including deacons, should receive a blessing.
When can you come and ask?
blessing
?
— In the temple or on its territory. It is worth noting that you should choose moments when the priest is free and you will not distract him. - On the street, if he is not dressed in secular clothes, or if you know each other well.
When it is not recommended to approach a priest for
blessing
?
During censing, when Communion is taking place, anointing. It is better to come at the end of the Liturgy, when believers come up to kiss the Cross, or after confession. Approaching one priest repeatedly during the day is wrong.
2. The next meaning is that blessing is understood as a request for guidance, asking permission for something. Perhaps you are going on a long trip or are in a difficult situation, then it would be appropriate to approach the priest for advice and ask for a blessing.
3. While at the service in the temple, we hear the words: “ The grace of our Lord
...", "
The blessing of the Lord is upon you
...". At these words, the priest makes the sign of the cross over those present, and we receive a blessing and bow our heads. There is no need to fold your palms.
«Bless, father
" This request should not turn into a saying or saying; such words should become solemn and joyful for a Christian.
One of my friends talked about the first blessing in his life: On January 12, 2015, I had to go to surgery, in the morning I was in the hospital, filling out documents. Quite by chance I met the priest Father Vladimir, we got into conversation... During parting, I asked the priest
blessing
and received it.
I got the first one in my life
blessing
!
Until that moment, I did not understand how important and necessary this is for a Christian. The sensations were colossal. I don’t know, maybe it was God’s grace, but I had such a powerful charge of confidence in the successful outcome of the upcoming medical intervention in my body, which did not leave me until I was discharged from the hospital. And I left the ward for the operation itself completely calmly. I already understood then that God was with me! And everything that will happen to me will be His will.
There are many superstitions associated with blessings, here are some examples:
— If you fold your palms and approach the priest, then at that moment grace falls on your hands.
It is not right. There is no magic in this.
— If several priests blessed, then everything will probably work out.
Said:
“Are not two small birds sold for an assar? And not one of them will fall to the ground without the will of your Father; But even the hairs of your head are all numbered” (Matthew 10:29-30).
This means that everything depends on the will of God and the further fulfillment of your work will greatly depend on how correct your desire is from the point of view of faith.
— Take from this priest
bless him
, he’s a sinner.
This position is incorrect. The Lord sends grace. The priest is His instrument. No matter what kind of life he lives, the grace of ordination abides in him.
— I really need my father to bless me, but he doesn’t do it. I'll come up again and persuade him.
If the priest does not give permission for what is requested, it means that he understands that it will not be useful for you, and maybe you are going to go against the commandments.
There is no need to “ torture
” the priest; he cares about the salvation of our souls.
Separately, I would like to draw the attention of everyone who has taken or is planning to take a blessing for some cause. Of course, there are different situations, but if you are asking for grace from the Lord, then you need to do what the priest said. If it doesn’t work out, then come and tell him about it.
We wish everyone reading this page God's blessing!
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How to bless your son before the wedding: words of maternal blessing
The word of parents, as you know, is endowed with special power. Father's and mother's blessings can have a direct impact on the fate of children. That is why they turn to their parents with such a request before any important event. One of them is the wedding day. How to bless your son before the wedding? What words should I say?
Not a single modern wedding is complete without parental blessing, just like in ancient times. The meaning of the ritual is quite multifaceted. Parents agree with their child’s choice, approve of the union, wish love and happiness, and give wise parting words to the young family.
Why you need to bless your son before the wedding: 5 reasons
1. A sign of respect and love for parents.
By asking for a blessing, a kind of family farewell, the son shows his parents his respect, thereby giving them the opportunity to feel their importance. In the complex system that is the family, such a connection between generations, based on love and reverence, is the foundation, the basis of the foundations.
2. Acceptance of the son's choice.
By giving a blessing, parents accept the fact that their son has grown up, become a man, a husband, ready to take responsibility for his family. At the same time, they agree with the son’s choice - the one he wants to introduce into the family as his wife, the mother of his children, their future grandchildren.
3. Sign of parental support.
Obtaining the parental approval of the chosen one is psychologically very important for a son, no matter how old he is. This is like additional proof that your choice is right, because it was blessed by people with family experience whose opinion is valuable to you. The son thus receives parental support in his family endeavors and confidence in his abilities.
Every mother should know how to bless her son before the wedding.
So, the solemn wedding day is approaching. The mother’s blessing of her son before the wedding plays a special role, so it must be prepared in advance, every word carefully thought out. You will have to spend some time writing your commencement speech. As a rule, words of blessing of the son are said before the wedding after the newlyweds’ walk, before entering the banquet venue. At the same time, the mother meets the newlyweds with a loaf and salt, while the father holds icons.
However, this option is slightly simplified. According to ancient canons, a mother’s blessing is given to a son twice before a wedding. The first time - in his father's house, the second - together with his young wife (as described above).
How to ask for blessings correctly?
The blessing is asked after the liturgy. If there are several priests in the temple, then it is better to take the blessing from the one who is higher in rank.
As a ritual, blessing is a special type of sign of the cross. At the same time, the believer who asks for a blessing must fold his hands into a cross - right palm over left, palms up, and say the words: “Bless, father.” After receiving the blessing, you must kiss the priest’s hand - this symbolizes kissing Christ’s hand.
Distribution of roles between parents
The groom's mother and father are naturally very worried before the wedding. When preparing for the blessing ceremony, they try first of all to figure out exactly how their roles will be distributed - who will be the first to address the newlyweds, who will hold the icons, and who will be the bread and salt. In fact, there is no single template. Each wedding can be organized differently.
A few more nuances
We should also not forget about some serious points. It is necessary to give parting words to your son before the wedding not just with icons in your hands. They must be held with towels, just like a loaf.
After the words of blessing have been spoken, the newlyweds must be crossed with icons and given a kiss. The sign of the cross is performed from top to bottom and from left to right - this is how it is according to church canons. You need to mentally “replay this action in your head” in advance so as not to get confused at the most crucial moment.
Bride and groom clothes
It is advisable for the groom to wear a strict dark suit to church. The bride wears a minimum of makeup, a discreet manicure, preferably without using perfume. Lipstick on the lips is generally unacceptable, because the bride will have to kiss the icon, just like the groom.
It is necessary to have a headdress for the bride in the form of a headscarf, veil or hat . As for the veil, do not forget that candles will be burning in the church, so avoid a particularly long and fluffy veil so that it does not accidentally catch fire.
It is not permissible for the bride to wear trousers or bare shoulders, neckline and arms at the ceremony . You should also wear comfortable shoes, preferably low heels, so that you don’t have any problems standing up for service on your feet. You need to take your passport with you to the wedding with a stamp confirming the marriage at the registry office.
The ritual needs to be revived!
If the parents of the couple themselves received the blessing, it is a little easier for them. You won't have to think about the words for long. How to bless your son before the wedding? Yes, just pass on the parting words heard before your wedding, so to speak, “by inheritance”!
If the parents of the newlyweds did not receive blessings, this is not a problem. You just need to learn a prayer and come up with words of wishes for fidelity, tenderness, love, prosperity, prosperity, etc. In general, everything you need for a happy married life. By blessing their children sincerely and from the heart, parents will give them a feeling of support for many, many years.
Mother's parting words, by the way, bring a lot of softness and tenderness, generosity and the ability to forgive, receptivity and warmth into the relationship of young people, and rid the family of aggression and cruelty.
Three most important points!
Thus, it is necessary to think very carefully about how to bless your son before the wedding. Correctly spoken words - sincere, sincere - will give the newlyweds three very important qualities.
Firstly, parental blessing brings spouses confidence that they will always live in abundance. Secondly, it gives confidence that the newlyweds will protect each other the way their parents protected each other for many years. Thirdly, the spouses will feel unconditional support in all their endeavors and confidence in all their capabilities. Do not forget that female energy is the best assistant in building a future family.
How to meet newlyweds
And now the wedding procession is approaching. Previously, the wedding took place at the groom’s home (it was assumed that the young wife would now live in a new family), so the parents and invitees were waiting for them at the porch . Today, banquet halls of canteens, cafes and restaurants are more often chosen as wedding venues.
When the newlyweds meet, the guests form a living corridor . Small objects are also prepared in advance and sprinkled on the bride and groom, as if wishing them happiness in their family life.
Traditionally, flower petals are thrown up, and coins, rice, and candies are thrown at the feet so that the family journey is well-fed, prosperous and happy.
Each such item carries its own wish:
- millet and rice - healthy offspring;
- candy - sweet life;
- flower petals - happiness and love;
- coins - prosperity;
- hops - luck and health;
- nuts - a strong marriage.
Who holds the loaf
The newlyweds walk along a lively corridor, and guests with wishes of happiness and goodness sprinkle candy, change, and millet at their feet. Parents are standing at the entrance to the hall where the festive banquet will be held . The mother-in-law holds a loaf of bread on an embroidered towel, and the father-in-law holds an icon .
According to tradition, a young couple bows to the parents who gave them life. The newly-made husband and wife each separate a piece of loaf , dip them in salt and treat each other. The meaning of this action is that a couple in love has shared bread and salt , and now a happy life awaits them without quarrels and swearing .
At many modern weddings, the newlyweds should not break off, but bite off a loaf. Moreover, whose piece turns out to be larger will be the leader in the family.
After this, the loaf is either removed and the next day taken to church for donation , or all guests are treated to it. The bride and groom take turns carrying around all those invited, and everyone breaks off a piece, dips it in salt and wishes happiness to the newlyweds.
After the loaf, it’s the father-in-law’s turn. He can present his daughter-in-law with a certificate or a solemn letter stating that from this day on she is a member of their family.
the bride's parents come into action . The newly-made mother-in-law treats her daughter and son-in-law with honey and wishes them a long life and an endless honeymoon. And the father-in-law, the father of the bride , brings them champagne . The glasses are drained to the bottom and broken “for good luck .” According to tradition, young people can bandage their hands with a towel, which will symbolize their long journey together.
