Is it possible to wear gold wedding rings and rings?
It should be immediately clarified that regarding gold in general, in Sharia there is a prohibition for Muslim men: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade Muslim men from wearing and wearing gold. This also applies to wedding rings. When the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ saw that a certain Muslim man was wearing a gold wedding ring, he took it right from the man’s hand with the words “ Would anyone want to take a coal from the fire and hold it in his hand? " It is considered unacceptable for Muslim men to wear gold, but they can wear rings made of any other metal besides gold - silver or other precious metals.
As an answer to this question, the words of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ are also cited, who, according to the testimony of Ali ibn Abu Talib, taking a piece of gold in one hand and a piece of silk in the other, called both forbidden for the men of his ummah. The fact that the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ forbade men to wear gold is confirmed by Abu Huraira. In his interpretation of the hadith from al-Baraa ibn Hajar, he mentions that there are seven prohibitions for Muslim men from the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, and one of such prohibitions is wearing a gold ring. And he mentioned that this ban does not apply to women.
How to choose the right wedding rings
These days, jewelry stores are filled with different options for engagement rings. Newlyweds can choose rings to suit every taste, color and price. There are some simple rules to consider. The ring should be comfortable and not cause discomfort in everyday life. Nowadays, newlyweds try to choose rings of the same design or with engraving of each other's names.
It is advisable to choose or purchase rings during the daytime (neither in the morning nor in the evening), since sometimes fingers can swell in the morning or evening. Your hands should not be very hot or cold; the fit of the ring will depend on this. You also need to consider whether the future spouses are allergic to a particular metal.
After the choice is made, you need to put the ring on your finger and move your hand for about 5 minutes, making sure that the ring does not cause discomfort.
It is advisable for women to plan in advance the choice of an engagement ring so that it matches the engagement ring.
When considering wedding ring models, it is necessary to take into account all the details: the shape of the hand, the length and thickness of the fingers. For long and thin fingers, any wide rings are suitable, and for those with wide and short fingers, only thin rings are suitable.
The choice of material for rings is also extensive: classic models are made of red gold. For lovers of silver jewelry, white gold rings are perfect. Silver and white gold are very similar in color.
Wedding rings made of expensive but durable platinum will demonstrate the wealth of their owners. Avant-garde lovers can choose models with mixed designs in yellow, rose and white gold.
On which hand do Muslims wear rings?
If we are talking about any other non-wedding ring, then if it is not gold, a Muslim can put it on any hand. An example is given of the case of the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, who engraved his name on a silver ring and wore this ring on his right hand. Scientists do not agree on which hand to place the ring on will be more worthy. The Prophet Muhammad himself, as well as many righteous ancestors of Muslims, wore the ring on his right hand. According to Imam an-Nawawi, it is more desirable to wear a ring on the right hand than on the left.
According to Imam Bayhaqi, Ali ibn Abu Talib, Umar ibn Khattab, Abu Bakr al-Siddiq, Hussein and Hassan wore rings on their left hands. But the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ in many cases preferred the right side - from the right foot he began to put on his shoes, comb his hair and anoint his beard with incense. He also began his ablution on the right side. This is precisely why the existing opinion is connected that it is more dignified for a Muslim to put a ring on his right hand.
Wedding signs
Over the millennia of existence of this beautiful wedding tradition, it has acquired many of the most extraordinary legends and interpretations. Different countries have their own special signs that are necessarily observed by couples in love and newlyweds. Here are some of them:
According to scientists, the ring finger of the hand has an astral connection with the Sun, Moon and Apollo (in each country this is usually called differently), therefore the ring on this finger allows a person to reveal all his energy potential, all hidden spiritual and creative principles, ability self-realization.- It is believed that the ring finger is directly related to love and romantic feelings. That is why wedding rings are preferable to be made of warm and soft gold, but it is not recommended to wear silver as a symbol of marriage, since this metal can cause a cooling of relations between lovers or spouses.
- It is generally accepted that wedding jewelry should not be removed for a long time and unnecessarily. It should not be given to another person to try on, since he, without wanting to, can “carry away” family happiness. For the same reason, it is highly discouraged to wear wedding rings for widows (widowers) - this sign can cause misfortune, illness or death of one of the spouses.
- It became a good sign to pass on family jewelry by inheritance. However, there are several mandatory rules here. Firstly, parents can pass on wedding rings to their children if their own marriage was happy and they celebrated their silver wedding. Secondly, it is important that at the time of the wedding the parents of the future spouses, the givers of the rings, are alive and voluntarily present this necessary gift to the children from hand to hand.
- It is strictly undesirable to put a wedding ring on a glove. The ring should be placed on the bare hand, as on the “naked” soul and heart of the beloved.
If the marriage breaks up (or in the event of the death of one of the spouses), the ring is removed from the right hand and put on the left. In countries where the left hand is the main one and bears the symbol of marriage, on the contrary, from the left hand to the right. The jewelry can simply be put away for storage, but if you remarry, it is not recommended to wear it again.
Originally posted 2018-03-30 21:37:53.
On which fingers is it desirable and undesirable to wear rings?
When asked about which finger is best to wear rings on, Imam an-Nawawi answered that for Muslims the most acceptable opinion is that it is best to put on the little finger if we are talking about a man. If we are talking about a woman, then she can wear rings on any fingers and on any hands.
The question was also asked about which fingers it is undesirable for a person to put a ring on. Ali ibn Abu Talib is known to have said that once the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ, pointing to his ring finger and middle finger, forbade putting rings on these fingers. This fact was confirmed by Imam an-Nawawi, who called wearing rings on these fingers “karahatu at-tanzih,” which translated means “undesirable.”
Jews
The custom of wearing a wedding ring on the left hand is associated with an ancient belief that came from Egypt that a certain artery, the “nerve of love”, runs on the ring finger of the left hand; exactly the same belief was widespread among the ancient Jews. This custom is indicated in the book “Tikunei Zohar” by the Jewish priest Shimon bar Yochai, who lived at the dawn of our era.
In Judaism, during the wedding ceremony - chuppah, the groom puts a ring on the bride's index finger of his left hand, so he, as it were, sanctifies the woman with this object and dedicates her to himself. Only a woman wears a ring; when she looks at it, she must remember that she is now and forever married. A woman wears a ring on her index finger on her wedding day, and then puts it on her ring finger; Moreover, she chooses her hand depending on the traditions in which she was brought up.
If the spouse dies, the widow removes the ring from her finger and keeps it with herself or can donate it to charity, which must be given to a certain number of days.
What weight can rings be worn?
Anticipating the question of what size rings a Muslim is allowed to wear, let us explain that Hanafis and Malikis have different opinions on this matter. If the Malikis believe that a man should have it in silver and no more than 2.975 g, then the Hanafis believe that it can be worn up to 4.25 g in weight. The Shafiites on this topic are of the opinion that it should not differ from most ordinary rings in its size, but they do not establish a certain number of grams. One of the scholars is quoted as saying: “And it is correct that there should not be more than one mithqal,” and the Hanbalis say that a ring can be equal to one mithqal or more.
Catholics and Protestants
In Catholicism, the wedding ring is worn on the left hand, and in the case of widowhood - on the right. This is due to the belief that the left hand is closer to the heart. However, this was not always the case - in the Middle Ages in different countries there were different decrees regarding which finger the ring should be put on, and it was on all fingers of the right and left hand.
For Protestants, the wedding itself is similar to the Catholic one, and the hand on which the ring is placed depends on the country. Protestants and Catholics do not give any special instructions regarding rings for widowed spouses, although according to European etiquette, a widow should not wear a wedding ring at all; it should be removed and kept at home.
It is narrated from Abdul ibn Jafar (may Allah be pleased with him): “Truly the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wore a ring on his right hand.”
Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) said that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took a silver ring and engraved on it the words
“Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah”
(al-Bukhari and Muslim)
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Imam an-Nawawi (may Allah be pleased with him) says: “Muslims have come to a consensus that it is sunnah to wear a ring...”
Which hand is the ring worn on?
It is allowed on both the right and left, but there is disagreement among scholars about which hand is more worthy to wear the ring on. It is reported from Anas (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wore a silver ring on his right hand (Muslim). Many of our righteous ancestors wore a ring on their right hand, others wore it on their left hand. Imam an-Nawawi said: “It is more desirable and beautiful to wear a ring on the right hand.”
(See Sharh an-Nawawiyah, No. 14/299).
Imam Bayhaki reports: “Abu Bakr al-Sidiq, Umar ibn Khatab, Ali ibn Abu Talib, Hasan and Hussein (may Allah be pleased with them) wore a ring on their left hand.”
(see al-Adab, p. 373).
Bukhari and Musli reported that Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) liked to put on shoes starting from the right foot, comb and anoint his hair and beard with incense starting from the right, and perform ablution starting from right side of the body, and do the same in all your other affairs.”
Based on this, I say that it is more worthy to wear a ring on the right side, and Allah knows best (Fathu al-Bari, No. 10/402–403).
Which finger should I put the ring on?
Imam an-Nawawi (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “Muslims are unanimous that it is sunnah for a man to wear a ring on his little finger. As for a woman, she can wear rings on any fingers” (See Sharh Sahih Muslim, No. 11/286).
On which fingers is it undesirable to wear a ring?
Ali ibn Abu Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade me to put a ring on this and that finger. After which he pointed to the middle and the next finger."
(at-Tirmidhi, Muslim, no. 3/172). Imam an-Nawawi (may Allah be pleased with him) said that this is qarahatu at-tanzih (undesirable)" (See Sharh Sahih Muslim, No. 14/298)
What kind of ring would you like to wear?
It is advisable for men to wear a silver ring, as there are hadiths about this. Imam Ahmad was asked: “Which ring is advisable to wear?” He replied: “The rings of the people were only silver” (see “Mawsuatu al-Fikhiyati”, No. 11/25).
Which ring is forbidden to wear?
It is forbidden to wear a gold ring. Ali ibn Abu Talib (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “I saw the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) take a piece of silk in his right hand and a piece of gold in his left hand, after which he said: “Verily this and this is forbidden.” for the men of my community"
(quoted by Abu Dawud with a good isnad).
Shubat narrated from Qatadat from Nazri ibn Anas from Bashiri ibn Nahik from Abu Huraira (may Allah be pleased with them): “Truly the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade the gold ring for men.”
Ibn Hajar (may Allah be pleased with him) writes in his interpretation of the hadith of al-Barraa: “The Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) forbade us seven things, and one of these prohibitions is the wearing of a gold ring by men, but not by women.”
In the commentary to Sahih al-Muslim, the unanimous opinion of scholars states: “It is forbidden for men to wear gold and what was permitted at the beginning of Islam has been abolished.”
Ibn Hajar also says: “Gold is forbidden to a man, be it in small quantities or in large quantities.”
(Fathu al-Bari, no. 10/391).
How much should a ring weigh?
Hanafi opinion: the ring should weigh no more than 4.25 grams.
Maliki opinion: a man is allowed to wear a silver ring weighing 2.975 grams, but if it weighs more, then it is already haram.
The opinion of the Shafi'is: a certain number of grams is not established, the weight that is typical for the rings that many people usually wear is permissible, and what differs from the usual is israf. Imam Azrai said: “And it is correct that there should not be more than one mithqal.” One misqal is 4.25 grams.
The opinion of the Hanbalis: there is nothing wrong if there is one mithqal or more, since there is no definition on this matter. What is permissible is what does not go beyond custom, otherwise it is haram (see “Mawsuatu al-Fikhiyati”, No. 11/27).
Is it possible to enter the toilet with a ring?
If the name of Allah is written on the ring, then you cannot enter the toilet with the ring. Anas ibn Malik (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) went to relieve himself, he took off his ring.”
(at-Tirmidhi).
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) gave the ring to the one who carried it, it was Muayqab ibn Abu Fatima ad-Dawsi.
Is it necessary to move the ring during ablution?
If the ring sits tightly on your finger and prevents water from penetrating under it, then in this case you definitely need to move the ring so that the water gets there. The same should be done during the great ablution, that is, bathing.
Do I need to remove the ring during tayammum?
Scientists are unanimous that during tayammum the ring must be removed; simply moving it is not enough.
Is it permissible to wear a ring during ihram?
After entering the Hajj during Ihram, you can wear a ring, like glasses, a watch, or a belt. But the Malikis say that the ring cannot be worn during ihram (Mawsuatu al-Fikhiyatu, No. 11/31).
Abu Huda al-Shafi'i
The ring is beauty. Many people love to decorate. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) told us about the ring. Wearing a ring is sunnah. If a person, putting on a ring, strives to follow the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), then in this case he will receive a reward from the Almighty.
The story of the ring of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
When the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wanted to write a message to the rulers of the surrounding lands and states, they told him that they did not accept messages that were not sealed with a ring. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took his ring and put his seal on the message.
The purity of the ring of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him)
The act of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us amazing lessons, each of us must understand them. Firstly, he acted according to the protocol, the procedures of the time, following the rules. Does it make sense to convey the message of Allah while observing generally accepted rules of relations between states? But still, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) decided to follow these rules. Secondly, having made a ring for himself, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wanted to make his emblem on it, a sign that indicates the importance of a person or company in our time. This is a very beautiful act. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) made for himself a simple ring on which was written: Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah. Everything was very simple. But, despite this simplicity, this ring had a deep meaning, since it was a clear indication of the most important thing, that he is the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him), the bearer of the revelations of Allah.
He then pointed out the high degree of respect for the Almighty that we recognize by looking at this ring. When reading this inscription, we first pronounce the name - Muhammad - the Messenger of Allah. When writing these words from top to bottom or bottom to top, the name of Allah was written above everything else. We all need to pay attention to this. If you want to make an emblem or sign that mentions Allah, think the same way as the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) did. Follow the prophetic example in using emblems, learn lessons so that each of our actions is associated with good intention, contains high meaning, is simple and clear, and is related to the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
Due to seals and emblems
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: “ Do not wear my ring and do not call yourself by my kunya (nickname)
».
Seals and names are of great importance in the state. It is not allowed to forge other people's seals and emblems; this is a type of deception. The seal of Caliph Uthman was forged by some of the Jews. They used a counterfeit seal on some documents, which became a cause of unrest in those days. All this is prohibited and prohibited by the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him).
Rings made of gold and silver
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wore a silver ring and forbade men to wear gold. Men are not allowed to wear gold, be it a ring, watch or other jewelry. Silver is the sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). He wore one ring, it was not reported that he wore two rings at once. The ring he wore either had an agate or onyx stone set in it, or was entirely made of silver with an inscription. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) wore a ring on his right hand. Basically, he wore the ring on his little finger, so that the stone was on the inside of his palm. This was the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in most cases, but there are other versions of scholars about this.
When is it advisable to remove the ring?
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took off his ring when entering the toilet, since the name of the Almighty was inscribed on it. There are scholars who say that it is advisable for a Muslim to remove his ring in any case when entering the toilet.
The gaze is fixed on him and on you
One day the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) sat with his companions and twirled the ring. Then he took it off and said: “The gaze is fixed on him and on you.” When a person communicates with people, he should not be distracted by a ring, watch or phone, as this is one of the signs of disrespect for the interlocutor. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), feeling that the ring was distracting him, took it off as long as his companions were next to him.
The Companions protected the ring with the seal of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), they exalted it, they used it in their affairs. After Abu Bakr and Umar, the ring passed to Usman. Glorifying the ring, the companions constantly wore it with them. During the reign of Uthman, the ring was lost near the al-Quba mosque. The Companions searched for him for a long time, but never found him. Later, some companions noted that the gates of troubles opened after the day when the ring of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was lost. And this is another one of the wisdoms of the Almighty that our community has seen.
May the Almighty love you
Wearing a ring is a simple sunnah, but nevertheless it has great meaning. There is nothing insignificant or insignificant in the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). The Sunnah has great significance because of the honor shown to the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) by the Almighty. A believer who understands this subtlety will understand the meaning of the Almighty’s saying:
“قُلْ إِنْ كُنْتُمْ تُحِبُّونَ اللَّهَ فَاتَّبِعُونِي يُحْبِبْكُم ُ اللَهّ »
“Say: “ If you love Allah, then follow me, and then Allah will love you.”
" (Quran, 3:31).
Transcript of a lecture by Sheikh Muhammad al-Saqaf
Wedding rings are a symbol of marriage and marital fidelity.
Therefore, many people give them a mystical meaning. Different peoples have different traditions associated with them.
Today, the custom of wearing wedding rings exists in almost all countries.
However, different peoples have significantly different wearing methods and wedding signs associated with them.
Even scientists have not come to a consensus about when the first rings appeared and the reasons for their occurrence.
Is it in Muslim traditions to wear wedding rings and is it possible to wear them?
Answering the question of whether Muslims wear wedding rings , and, if so, on what hand do Muslims wear a wedding ring, there is only one answer: Muslims do not wear wedding rings , since such a wedding custom implies the belief that wearing a ring affects marriage relationships, and the desire to more reliably ring a husband are a form of shirk, and also because this is a custom that came to Muslims from non-Muslims. Muslims can wear other rings, not wedding rings, if they are not made of gold. It is preferable not to wear rings on the middle and ring fingers.
For Catholics
A marriage proposal is the moment when a man asks a woman to become his wife. This event has quite personal meaning for both partners.
Statements are accompanied by a lot of stress, especially for gentlemen, since the entire organization of this unique moment rests on their shoulders. It is they who must plan the right time and place for this event and think about how to ask for the hand of the woman they love. The engagement is part of the proposal.
After the question: “Do you want to be my wife?” the woman answers “yes” and accepts the gold ring offered to her, and at that moment the lovers are already engaged. The engagement ring is worn on the ring finger of the right hand.
Tradition required that wedding rings have white stones. This color symbolized good luck and success. Most often, engagement rings were framed with diamonds or pearls. The names of the young people or short sayings were engraved inside.
Usually a small celebration is organized for the family, and there the groom formally asks the father of his future wife for consent to the marriage. Typically, the wedding takes place a year after the engagement, but there are couples who get married after two to three years from the date of engagement.
Previously, coming and informing the parents of the future bride about serious intentions towards their daughter was mandatory. Without the consent of the father of the future wife, the wedding was not real. Nowadays, this tradition is fading into oblivion.
The younger generation often abandons those customs and decides to announce their engagement to their parents after the fact. Modern engagement is the most cozy, pleasant event. The bachelorette party is most often held after the candidate for husband hears “yes.”
Parents, close relatives and friends can be present at such a party along with the newlyweds. However, if young people want to preserve traditions, they should remember several important points. The engagement party takes place at the house of the future bride, and the date is set by her mother.
In addition, the bride's parents bear the cost of the reception since the groom-to-be and his parents are responsible for purchasing the wedding ring. In addition to the ring, the groom must give his beloved a bouquet of flowers (preferably tea or white roses).
Of course, the future of the groom depends on the good opinion of the parents of his chosen one, therefore, the next step would be to present the bride’s mother with a bouquet of flowers, for example red roses, and the father with a bottle of cognac or other strong drink.
Then lunch, deeper acquaintance. When the atmosphere becomes friendly, the groom asks the bride's parents for consent to the marriage. When the parents have already expressed their consent to the wedding, all that remains is to ask your girlfriend about it.
If the woman accepted the request of the future groom, then he puts a ring on her. Once the ring adorns the bride's finger, it's time to congratulate. In Poland, the engagement ring is worn on the ring finger of the right hand, and the wedding ring is worn on the left hand.
In some other Western countries, this ring is immediately put on the ring finger of the left hand, and on the wedding day it is replaced with an engagement ring.
It is important that in all Catholic and Protestant countries the wedding ring is worn on the left hand. This is accepted in the USA, Canada, England, Germany, Austria, France, South America, and Australia.
Special cases
A decoration of this type on the ring finger is an indicator of status, but at the same time, such an accessory can act not only as evidence of marriage ties. During divorce and loss of a spouse, the wedding ring is also worn, but in special ways.
Divorce
In countries where Christianity is practiced, after a divorce it is customary to change the ring from one hand to the other . But many people prefer in this case to completely get rid of such an accessory in order to avoid constant reminders of this unpleasant event.
Advice! You should not re-gift such jewelry left after a divorce; it can bring negative energy with it. This is a bad omen.
Death of a spouse
In this case, it is customary to wear a similar accessory on the second hand.
There is an opinion that loyalty to a loved one is shown in this way. But many people are of the opinion that it is strictly not recommended to wear such a product after the death of one of the spouses. You cannot give such jewelry to any of your relatives. It will bring nothing to the new owner except anxiety, worries and negative emotions.
What does the ring symbolize?
According to one version, in ancient times, when the presence of any rings: gold, silver, iron, testified to the well-being of their owner.
The future husband brought them as a gift to his bride's parents as a sign that he was able to support his wife and she would not need anything.
According to another theory, in ancient times the ring symbolized infinity
Therefore, by wearing this symbolic decoration, the newlyweds took a vow of boundless and immortal love.
The third version says that the rings are links in the chain that connected husband and wife. The spouses wore them as a sign of the inviolability of the bonds by which they were bound.
