Where did superstition come from?
The tradition of wearing rings after engagement and marriage has a long history. This custom comes from ancient times. Even then, wedding rings were made in the form of a closed circle. The form was considered optimal, guaranteeing the preservation of the family and excluding the machinations of evil spirits.
There is also a belief that newlyweds are forbidden to remove their jewelry. Unfortunately, this rule is neglected and the importance of the engagement ceremony is underestimated.
This decoration absorbs maximum positive energy and can nourish relationships throughout life.
At the moment of the exchange of rings during the wedding ceremony, vows are read - the man and woman seal the union. If the partner removes the product, the protection will be interrupted.
According to psychologists, a spouse who refuses to wear jewelry wants to get rid of marriage ties and allows or plans to cheat.
The history of the tradition of wearing a wedding ring
When preparing for a wedding, people choose their wedding rings, but few of them have seriously thought about where this tradition came from. It turns out that it is rooted deep in the past and is shrouded in all sorts of romantic legends.
According to many historians, it originated in Ancient Egypt, where noble women wore rings made of gold and silver, and less rich women wore rings made of clay and glass.
In Rome, wedding rings made in the shape of a key were popular; men gave them to their wives as a sign that the woman would share all the sorrows and responsibilities of her husband. The very process of exchanging rings is imbued with the meaning that a piece of a loved one will always be nearby. Unfortunately, at present, wedding rings have remained only a tradition that has lost its original meaning. Some men and women do not want to wear this symbol of marital fidelity on their finger at all, considering such a sign to be a stupid and useless game.
Why you shouldn't take off your wedding rings after the wedding
Ancestors believed that temporary refusal to wear a wedding ring leads to misfortunes and misunderstandings, and can destroy the family idyll. In religion, it is a symbol of inexhaustible love, and esotericists endow it with special power; they believe that the ring warns young people from temptations that lie in wait on the path of life. It is highly undesirable to remove jewelry during the first year after marriage - the relationship is not strong enough.
You cannot remove the ring from your hand because another person might try it on. It is absolutely not necessary to put a wedding attribute on your hand, just touching it is enough to pick up a particle of positive energy. If the wedding jewelry falls into the hands of a bad person, there will be discord in the family.
According to legend, a husband and wife can take off the items at the same time after a major quarrel. It is recommended to soak the jewelry in a salt solution or holy water for an hour, and then exchange rings and repeat your vows. This simple ritual will get rid of negative energy and strengthen the union.
For a wedding, you cannot take previously used jewelry or accept it as a gift from relatives or family friends.
It is better for the bride and groom to buy them in person in the store, with their own cash. Change cannot be taken away. A tip given to the seller guarantees a prosperous life.
To the groom
Neither a woman nor a man should remove a wedding ring after a wedding. During the first year of marriage, the jewelry should be permanently on the ring finger of the right hand. Compliance with this simple rule will cement the union of two hearts and allow mutual understanding to be achieved. If a husband constantly does not wear a wedding ring, and then takes it off altogether, this is a signal that makes a woman wary. The husband is not indifferent to the other woman and is ready to cheat.
You can remove the wedding ring after the wedding if there is an urgent need, if it is related to work or carrying out any activities, and the decoration is in the way. It is important to put the jewelry out of reach; you can hang it on a chain around your neck, next to your pectoral cross.
For the bride
While a married girl is not allowed to remove her jewelry. It is a powerful amulet against the evil eye and damage, protecting a young family from ill-wishers. The accessory gains maximum power after the wedding ceremony in the church. If a woman takes off her jewelry, she declares her potential readiness for new relationships - this brings discord into the family.
Is it possible to take off a wedding ring at night if it interferes with proper rest? - It is highly undesirable to do this. But in this case, negativity can be avoided. The ring should be hung on a red thread and placed around the neck so that it is in contact with the skin. In this case, the couple’s bond will remain unshakable.
It is prohibited to give the jewelry to anyone.
For a symbol of eternal love and fidelity, contact with someone else's energy is destructive. Even if the person holding the wedding rings does not wish harm to the couple, scandals may occur in their family.
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My husband doesn't wear a wedding ring - what do the signs say?
There are orthodox families in which everything goes according to routine “like everyone else” or “as it should be.” If the wife sees that her husband took off his wedding ring when leaving the house, she will certainly throw a tantrum at him. What are such wives more afraid of: their husband’s betrayal or bad omens?
When people believed omens, after the wedding it was necessary to wear wedding rings. This tradition comes from ancient times, when family was a sacred concept.
It is a good sign if the husband does not wear a ring and does not hide it: he has nothing to hide and he is not a womanizer, not a cheater, but simply does not like jewelry, or the ring interferes with him while working
The symbol of marriage has always had a round shape, meaning an eternal union, protecting the husband and wife from misfortunes and illnesses. It was forbidden to remove the ring, give it to someone to try on, or wear it for a while. They believed that the person who took it would take away the family’s happiness.
In the modern world, the following sign is guaranteed to work: if a married man does not wear a ring to work, then soon a major scandal will break out in the family. Neighbors will hear him, friends and all acquaintances will know about him. The wife will suffer, looking for suspicious numbers in her husband’s phone and dubious contacts on social networks.
To prevent a bad omen from working, you need to urgently arrange a romantic dinner and, over a friendly conversation, find out the reason why there is no symbol of family happiness on the ring finger of your right hand. Maybe there are good reasons for this that are not worth a woman’s tears and nerves.
The main reasons why spouses refuse to wear an accessory
There are many circumstances why spouses decide to take off their wedding ring after the wedding. The most unpleasant of them is betrayal, but the reasons can be completely different:
- professional activity
- decoration interferes with household duties
- doesn't fit the size
- fear of losing or damaging the ring
- don't like the look
A man's reluctance to wear a wedding ring does not mean that he is involved in adultery. And there is no need to throw tantrums or force you to wear jewelry at any cost. There may be several reasons why a husband does not want to wear a wedding ring. And some of them are quite significant.
Firstly, men are not accustomed to wearing various jewelry. It’s much easier for women in this regard. At first, girls decorate their fingers with plastic rings, then, as they grow up, they replace them with precious ones. The overwhelming majority of men do not wear anything on their fingers. Therefore, the ring will be perceived as a foreign object that interferes, distracts attention and irritates.
Secondly, people tend to get fat or may have a tendency to edema. But the ring is still made of metal, not rubber. If the ring remains on your finger after it swells or thickens, it is unlikely that you will be able to remove it with soap or oil. You will have to say goodbye to expensive jewelry.
Thirdly, the desire or ability to wear or not wear a ring is also influenced by the man’s field of activity. If your spouse works not with his tongue, but with his hands, then it is likely that the decoration is simply bothering him. You can, of course, suggest that he take it off every time before work and then put it on again. But then go to work with him and do what he does, for about a week. At what day will you get tired of the ring procedure? It is possible, after all, to accidentally lose such a significant symbol of marriage.
Fourthly, wearing a wedding ring may contradict his views and life principles. Have you just found out about this? You've seen who you're marrying. It is unlikely that your chosen one was a wolf in sheep's clothing, carefully hiding his true preferences. And you probably knew his opinion on this issue before the celebration. The mistake of many women is to think that a stamp in a passport will make a man submissive, and he will begin to fulfill all your demands and whims. If your loved one immediately notified you that he does not wear a ring, and the engagement ring is no exception, then you are unlikely to convince him otherwise.
If you think that having a ring will protect you from cheating and protect you from other women attacking your loved one, then you are deeply mistaken. Don't be naive. For representatives of the oldest profession, it makes no difference what is on a man’s fingers. Yes, and your beloved can wear a ring just to divert his eyes, to lull your vigilance. And if you periodically start quarrels with demands to wear a ring, then you yourself will destroy your family happiness.
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In what cases can you remove the engagement ring?
- Job. Doctors, chefs and food technologists cannot wear a wedding band on their finger all the time. This is prohibited by sanitary standards. The ban is due to the fact that despite following hygiene recommendations, bacteria will accumulate under the decoration
- Performing household duties and cosmetic procedures. For this reason, women remove the ring before washing dishes, washing and applying cream.
- Health problems. Certain diseases cause swelling of the limbs, so wearing a ring is dangerous. The finger may swell, the jewelry cannot be removed and will have to be sawed. Swelling often appears during pregnancy, which is why doctors recommend abandoning any jewelry in the later stages.
Can you trust signs?
There are many superstitions associated with wedding rings. They have a long history, confirmed by the experience of past generations, but they should not be completely trusted.
Basic signs associated with matrimonial rings:
- loss predicts an imminent separation
- using someone else's couple guarantees a repeat of their fate in the experience of the newlyweds
- An unmarried girl is recommended to touch the bride’s ring - she is more likely to meet her betrothed and the long-awaited proposal
- to drop at a wedding - to the early death of the spouse
- If you put jewelry on the bride’s wedding gloves, the couple will quickly separate
- the widow's ring brings a lot of troubles, it is advised to melt it down as soon as possible
Why don't priests wear wedding rings?
The clergy remove their wedding rings immediately after the wedding, there are explanations for this:
- The priest does not belong to his family, but he does not allow himself to lead a free lifestyle due to compliance with high regulations. He is connected by spiritual ties not only with his wife, he feels love for all people
- The priest is obliged to protect not only his own family, but the entire parish
- The ring interferes with the rite of baptism and liturgy
The clergy do not believe in omens and superstitions, so they take off their wedding ring - this is the main explanation.
Possible reasons why a wife does not wear a wedding ring
Situations when a married woman does not want to wear an engagement ring after the wedding rarely happen. There are good reasons for this:
- the young wife is afraid of losing the symbol of family happiness because she lost weight during her honeymoon, dieting, and active recreation;
- the jewelry is very expensive and there is a risk of it being stolen;
- the design of the jewelry does not match the image and is in dissonance with other jewelry;
- swelling of the fingers during pregnancy;
- cheats when going for an interview if the employer prefers unmarried employees;
- economical, loves order, always washes something, cleans it, removes wedding jewelry so that the surface of an expensive piece of jewelry does not fade when in contact with chemicals, but forgets to put it on due to constant busyness;
- she has matured, a new taste for jewelry design has formed, her social status has changed, so the wedding attribute purchased in her distant, reckless youth has become irrelevant;
- my profession does not allow me to wear jewelry.
Judging by the large list of valid reasons, many modern wives can remove their wedding rings after the wedding. When performing this seditious action according to ancient concepts, you should not remember ancient signs. They won't come true if you don't believe in them. The family will not fall apart and the love between spouses will not end.
A modern bad omen: if immediately after marriage one of the newlyweds picks up a box from a wedding decoration, the family will sooner or later fall apart
Moreover, the one who does this first will enter into a second marriage earlier.
How to avoid the consequences predicted in signs
- The husband constantly takes off the ring - look after him through the hole in the ring. This way you will prevent betrayal if it was planned.
- When circumstances force you to refuse to wear jewelry on your finger, hang it around your neck and wear it closer to your heart. This way the influence of a negative sign is neutralized
- If there are constant scandals in the family, contact a clergyman. He will consecrate the ritual attributes and read a special prayer
- If one of the partners loses a ring, melt the second one and buy a new pair. Wear with repetition of vows before marriage
Husband and wife should wear their wedding bands without taking them off. These are not just jewelry, but real amulets designed to protect the created family from harm.