At what age should you get married? The question is usually asked simply out of curiosity. Surely, there is not a single young man who, having learned that you need to get married at the age of 18, rushed headlong to look for a bride in order to drag her to the registry office.
And yet, such a question, no, no, will fly into the head of a single, free guy, about 57 years old. Therefore, we offer an article on this topic.
At what age is it better to get married?
Many men wonder at what age is the best time to get married. After all, life goes on, and sooner or later every young person begins to have such thoughts. But before you answer this question, you should ask yourself another: “Do I really want to get married? What will this bring me? After all, a significant part of guys get married because the girl wants it, or because relatives put pressure on them. In general, anything can happen, but not your own desire.
After all, oddly enough, marriage is practically useless for a man. It does not provide any benefits, except for one thing: in the event of the death of one of the spouses, the other receives the property. Otherwise, if the couple is not officially married, the property goes to the closest relatives of the deceased. A man has the same rights and responsibilities towards his children, regardless of whether he is married to a woman or not. The same situation applies to everything else. Roughly speaking, you can live with a woman, have children, and it will be no different for a man compared to when he has a stamp in his passport.
Women need marriage, because they get much more benefits from it compared to men. But this is a topic for another article.
When is the best time for a man to get married - before the wedding
How relevant is this question? In my opinion, very much, if, of course, you want to marry her. Firstly, if you delay for a long time (sometimes they say that the maximum period for a girl to date is three years), then she will simply start looking for a more accommodating candidate. And it’s hard to disagree with this: over the years, a girl rarely becomes more beautiful and healthier, and she wants to have children. And the timing here is also limited, although some now give birth after forty, but this is rather an exception to the rule.
Many psychologists argue that a man should wait at least six months. And I couldn't agree more. After all, no matter how cloudless your relationship may seem to you, and no matter how much you are in love with her, in any case she has, albeit minor, shortcomings
. For example, she sometimes likes to shout at you and give you orders. Keep in mind that such features of her character will intensify over time, and even more so after the wedding. But this, fortunately, also applies to positive traits. So, when is it better for a guy to get married? Having met for at least six months, so that the true face of your chosen one has time to appear.
Optimal age for a man to get married
So, if you still ask the question “at what age is it better to get married?”, then the answer will be as follows.
It is better for a man to get married between 28 and 40 years old. And that's why.
At the age of 18-28, the guy is still young, the energy inside is simply boiling. Including sexy. Therefore, there is a strong craving for everything new, for experiments, for gaining experience. Getting married at this age is too reckless. After a couple of years have passed, you realize that marriage is for the rest of your life. Accordingly, you are obliged to be faithful to your woman. And due to your young age and a lot of energy, you will again have a great desire to meet and seduce other women. You can, of course, change it. But what is the point of marriage then?
Moreover, in order to start a family, a man must still get on his feet. Be able to provide for your children, too. This process takes time. Typically, a person begins to have real financial opportunities closer to the age of 30.
By this age, you will have walked around enough and gained experience. And most importantly, you will understand exactly what kind of woman you need for a stable, calm and long-term relationship. You will also understand exactly what qualities you want to see in her, and which ones you cannot put up with.
Another plus for men: if a girl has the greatest value before 25 years old. Because its main advantages are youth, health and beauty. What is of greatest value in a man is his character, life experience, ability to earn money, and ability to solve complex life issues. For him, appearance is of secondary importance. Accordingly, over the years, until the age of 40, a man only gains value for women.
What time should a man get married?
Of course, the question of when is the best time to get married requires a purely individual approach
. However, the opinion that if you haven’t gotten married before 30, you won’t get married anymore is not relevant.
It is popularly believed that the ideal age to get married is between 28 and 38 years old. Usually by this time the man has already “matured” sexually, financially and psychologically.
plans. He recognizes himself as a man and is ready to take responsibility not only for himself, but for his wife and children.
By this age, a man no longer wants to spend time in dubious places, change women like gloves and lead a riotous lifestyle. He has already realized that happiness is not in women, but in the only one whom he will love sincerely and irrevocably
.
It is better for a man to marry when he sincerely loves a woman
Another point in favor of later marriages is material wealth
. As a rule, after 30 years a man is already firmly on his feet financially and can provide his family with everything necessary.
So, at what age is it better for a guy to get married? At the age when he realizes all the responsibility, he began to earn a normal income and can provide for his family.
At what age is it better for a woman to get married?
Every woman knows that age is of great importance. Throughout her life, age literally haunts a woman. At first, the girl wants to grow up to become an adult, and as she matures, she begins to hide her age. The headache of many women is often the question: “When is it better to get married: early or later?”
Historical facts show that in many countries girls got married at 13-14 years old. Moreover, in most cases, the marriage was determined and decided by the parents, and their children could not change anything at all. Sometimes even the bride and groom did not know each other before the wedding and had never even seen each other, but if the parents needed this marriage, then it took place.
But, according to ancient Russian laws and customs, it was possible to get married at the age of 15, and to get married at the age of 12. Upon reaching marriageable age, the boy’s parents began searching for a bride. Having found her, they sent matchmakers from among their friends or acquaintances to the girl’s parents or relatives to find out whether they wanted to marry her off and how much dowry they would give for her. If the girl’s relatives did not want to marry the girl to this person, they would make some excuse and refuse. But if they said that they would think about it and then give an answer, consent to the marriage was received. Psychologist's advice
“It is impossible to indicate the age when exactly a person is ready for a family relationship, since it occurs differently for everyone. Some people at 16 are already established individuals, while others at 40 are “mama’s” children. Most psychologists note that it is best to get married when such important conditions as:
- the girl is already old enough to appreciate the happiness of the family and be ready to take care not only of herself, but also of her husband, and later of the child;
— the girl has found a worthy chosen one, with whom she feels so united that she gains confidence that she will be by his side in any life situation. Confidence in your partner and that he will not leave or betray you is also important; In general, it is better to start a family only when you yourself are a formed and self-sufficient person. Then the relationship can bring further development and happiness, and not remorse, regret and even personality degradation.
Why do girls want to get married?
In most cases, a guy begins to think about marriage only because his beloved talks about marriage, wants to get married, persuades him, or even gives him an ultimatum. Why do girls want to get married? Understanding the answer to this question will partially answer the most important question addressed in this article.
Girls want to get married because they have been programmed to do so since childhood.
Please note that girls are given as gifts: dolls, strollers, kitchen tools, etc. In other words, from childhood the girl was sharpened with only one desire - starting a family
We can say that some girls do not see any other meaning for their lives other than to get married and give birth to many children. They do not think about education, career and other areas of life. They are only interested in marriage as a path to their realization.
Many girls are subject to the outdated belief that they all need to get married. The main purpose of a woman is the family. Here are some girls who implement the program given to them when they are supposed to get married. They may not understand it. Moreover, most young girls are not ready for family life. However, they don't realize it. They carry out the program given to them, like puppets, and until they achieve their goal, they will not understand what they really wanted.
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Only a small part of girls do not want to get married. Usually such young ladies are ambitious. They want to become self-sufficient and independent. These girls don't talk about marriage. Sometimes they are not even of particular interest to the guys themselves. They can be interesting to talk to, and you can learn a lot from them. But many members of the opposite sex do not perceive them as girls.
Girls want to have a wedding, not get married! In other words, many girls, if you listen carefully to their desires, say that they want to wear a white dress, be the center of attention, have fun. They don't talk about family everyday life. They dream of just one day when they will be the main characters of all events. In this situation, guys act only as tools in achieving what they want. After all, there is no way to have a wedding without grooms.
Age is no barrier to love!
I’m sure many people have this very phrase in their heads right now. And now, my beautiful ones, I turn to you. What's the obstacle? On your part, this is a desire to be right in everything, to argue, to teach your husband... Sound familiar? You can find a complete list of bad female habits here.
Despite all kinds of research and surveys, one thing remains unchanged. And at 20, and at 30, and at 40, only you, girls, can create harmony and comfort in the family. It’s just that at any age there are some shortcomings that you need to get rid of in time.
For example, if you are 20 years old (or a little older)
, it makes sense to focus on education and professional development. Regardless of how successful your chosen one is, create a financial “cushion” for yourself in advance.
Is everything so smooth for thirty-year-olds? If you have already built a good career and achieved financial independence, be able to set priorities and take a break in time. So that you don’t have to be a lady with “iron balls” in life.
«At 40, life is just beginning
“, insisted the heroine of one famous film. Which is quite real. But only if you are ready to change some of your principles. In other words, come out of the cocoon, smile, flirt like you did in your youth. Warm up men's interest in you.
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My dear girls, share in the comments, do you agree with the research of the American sociologist? At what age is it better to get married?
Age "it's time"
When is it time? Firstly, when you yourself are consciously ready for marriage, and secondly, when you meet the right man. If you follow these two recommendations, believe me, this will not happen too soon. In order to really mature for marriage, you need time and life experience. You must have a profession, a job, a stable position in life.
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Yes, and the birth of children should be approached more consciously. Motherhood at 23 is one story. But motherhood at 30 is completely different. Talk to mothers of different ages and you will understand this difference. She is responsible and ready. At 23, you still want impressions, novelty, professional and personal development, you want to achieve something, try.
Therefore, there is only one piece of advice here - take your time. The more ready you are for marriage, the more mature your position and values, the stronger the relationship will be. And while you live and try life, you may suddenly realize that marriage is not for you. This will save you from unnecessary disappointments and regrets.
How do you know when it's time to get married?
Unlike men, all girls understand that they have little chance of getting married after 35, and having children at this age is fraught with serious health problems. Men, on the contrary, “pull” to the last.
Girls usually set the duration of a relationship before marriage to no more than three years
If after three years the guy does not offer to legalize the relationship, the girl begins to look for another candidate . This sometimes happens subconsciously. Of course, there are exceptions when a woman waits for years for him to “ripe”, but there are not many of them.
